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Recovering Addicts Share 'Mind-Blowing' Stories About Not Being Judged

Recovering Addicts Share 'Mind-Blowing' Stories About Not Being Judged

Going to rehab can be a scary thing for an addict — even one who desperately wants to get better. When you come clean about your lifestyle and put it out there in the open, it’s hard to imagine that people won’t be judging you at every turn. This likely puts a lot of people off from getting the help that they need, but fortunately those that make the leap to rehabilitation tend to find that there is a lot less judgment than they expect.

Christy, a recovering addict, needed to go through some difficult emotions and deep, personal issues before getting the help she needed. She’d had an affair and felt she had neglected her children, and she felt a great deal of shame. She had a hard time finding someone to talk to without fear of judgment until she went to rehab. 

“I was able to open up about it,” she told me. “I guess I thought that everybody would think I was a horrible mother and wife. But nobody judged me; these people have done bad things too. They’re not here to judge me. They accepted me. They hugged me and told me it was OK while I was crying and admitting things.”

Zach, who recently reached his first year of sobriety, told me he felt “empty and alone” when he first arrived at rehab.

“I was ashamed of myself, I felt guilty, and I didn’t think anyone else was going through what I was going through. I had a wife and kids, other people I was responsible for. I thought I’d go there and have people judging me. But it was mind-blowing when I got there. I’ll never forget when I first got to my treatment facility. I had just gotten out of my intake with the nurse, and she introduced me to someone. He said, ‘Hey, friend! What are you here for?’ And I told him. He said, ‘Don’t be ashamed — we’re all addicts here!’ That’s something that’s always stuck with me.

“I didn’t think anyone else had ever been where I was in life, or would be able to relate to anything that was going on in my head,” he added. “That was also a big part of why I didn’t hide out in my room. People would walk by me and introduce themselves when I first got there, and it was still kind of overwhelming because I was still withdrawing. It was mind-blowing how people really connected with me without even talking to me, and just knowing what was going through my head just by me being there.”

“It felt great,” said Jeff about his experience at the Treehouse, an Addiction Campuses facility in Texas. “The wall I had built kind of started to come down. It was beautiful because here I was with a bunch of strangers, but yet in some form or fashion, I could relate to every single one of them. You don’t have to feel like you’re being judged or you're going to let anyone down. There’s no reason to feel guilt or any shame. It was only supportive. It was very freeing.

“It was especially helpful being able to unload all of my thoughts and all of my baggage having been such an isolated user, and having people tell me, ‘I’ve felt that exact same thing.’ I felt like I was the only one — in the billions of people that have ever lived — who had ever had this problem to this degree. But of course that’s not true. And a lot of people have it a lot worse.”

Jeff was struck by how people were not forced into interaction and the freedom that was allowed.

“I learned more from my fellow addicts than I learned from anybody there,” he recalled. “It was a beautiful experience and I’m very grateful to have taken part in it. ...

“It showed me that it doesn’t have to be that hard,” he added. “It’s all about being honest — you’ve got to be honest with yourself and you’ve got to be honest with others, and that’s hard. It’s especially hard to be honest with yourself. It was amazing taking a step back and looking at what I’d done and being able to forgive myself and ask for forgiveness without dwelling on it. You’ve just got to let it go. My fellow addicts helped me to do that with their stories. I didn’t expect any of that to come out of it.”

Scott, another recovering addict, shared some interesting perspective as someone who helps others through a commitment group. He stands in front of groups and opens meetings. He called himself the “face of the meeting”.

“The one thing you don’t want to do is come across as preaching, because not everyone is ready,” he explained. 

“You don’t judge, because you’re not there to judge,” he told me. “When people talk at the podium, you don’t judge and you don’t compare — you’re just trying to identify. You don’t listen to someone speak and say, ‘I didn’t do that, so that must not be true.’ You have to identify and not compare. If I compared myself to others, I probably wouldn’t be sober.”

Everybody goes through traumas and dramas and has had things happen that brought them to where they are now,” said Lincoln, who hit his first year of sobriety this past summer. “But no matter what you’re going through, somebody has been through it before you, and somebody was able to get past where you are now. A lot of people think their problems are too much for any one person to handle. But just because someone has a smile on their face every day doesn’t mean they haven’t been through tough times. That’s the benefit of having AA and support meetings — once you walk in, you already know those people have had the problems you’ve had. No one is judging you. ...

“I’ve done a lot of really wrong things in my life — not because I was raised to be that way, but just through using and wanting to get my next fix,” Lincoln admitted. “I was blown away being at the podium and speaking to groups and not being judged. I talked to my father for the first time in a year and told him I was remorseful for the things I had done, but it was hard to be sorry — if things hadn’t happened the way they did, I wouldn’t be where I am now.

“Everybody has a past. Nobody cares about the past. To me, the past is a non-issue. You can’t judge someone on their past. If we’re judging someone on their past mistakes, no one will get out alive. I like to think, ‘What are you doing now to make yourself better for tomorrow?’”

Lincoln’s words of wisdom really are the key to sobriety. It’s important to be honest, but you can’t dwell on the past. It’s all about making things better, and it’s amazing how much support these recovering addicts have managed to find when they put in the effort to make that improvement a reality.


Wrestler Arrested In Hillsborough County Florida For Domestic Violence

I just saw this on the news, and it is important to reserve judgement until this Hillsborough County Man has had his day in court. It really is a sad situation when 2 people are trying to talk out their problems w/o getting the Police involved that a person can be arrested and charged with a Felony for "Tampering with a witness". In fact, the penalty for "Tampering with a witness" is much more severe then the penalty for actually hitting a person in a Domestic Violence incident. I guess the Police here in Hillsborough County Florida value a witness who can testify and make a case against someone more then a victim who has been beaten. Imagine a Man and his wife have an argument, they both scream at each other, and the wife goes to call the Police. The Man, not wishing to have his neighbors see the Police come to their home, simply grabs the phone from his wife. That simple act of not allowing his irrational wife to call the police will get you charged with a Felony here in Hillsborough County Florida. And, get this, it matters not if the domestic violence charges are proven to be untrue and dismissed in Court or not. Here is the story below of The Wrestler Known As Adam Rose, Who Was Arrested Here In Hillsborough County Florida For Domestic Violence. Hillsborough County deputies arrested WWE star Raymond Leppan Wednesday. Leppan, 36, is charged with domestic battery and preventing the victim from contacting law enforcement. Leppan is known as Adam Rose. Deputies said he engaged in a verbal argument with the victim about marital problems at a residence in the 18000 block of Sparrows Nest Drive. Leppan “grabbed the victim on each side of her face with his hands and pulled her face close to his while he screamed at her,” deputies said. When the victim called 911, Leppan allegedly took the phone away so she couldn’t report the incident. “The defendant admitted to taking the phone away from the victim so she could not report the incident,” deputies said. The WWE released the following statement: “Raymond Leppan (a.k.a. WWE Superstar Adam Rose) was arrested at his home this morning by the Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office in Tampa, Fla. According to a police report, Leppan was taken into custody and booked on alleged charges of tampering with a witness, a felony, and battery domestic violence, a misdemeanor. He is currently being held without bond. WWE has zero tolerance for matters involving domestic violence, and per our policy, Raymond Leppan has been suspended indefinitely following his arrest.”


Man Seeks Restraining Order Against God

An Israeli man has launched a campaign to stop God interfering in his life after three years of poor treatment at the hands of the Almighty. The unidentified man submitted a restraining order request against His Holiness at an Israeli court on Tuesday. He said that God had been bothering him for three years and that repeated requests to the police had been ignored, with the authorities only sending patrol cars to his home on 10 occasions and not taking his calls seriously. Authorities eventually told the man to take out a restraining order in court against the Lord, he said, so he duly obliged at the Magistrate Court in the northern Israeli port city of Haifa. “For the past three years He started to treat me harshly and not nicely. I complained to the police many times. The Israel police asked me to take out a restraining order,” the man said in the proceedings at the court, according to Israeli news site NRG. God appeared to take note of the man’s complaints as the document of the court proceedings, published after the restraining order request, noted that He did not present himself at the hearing. One has to wonder if a warrant for God's arrest was issued by the judge for failure to appear ? The ruling judge, Ahsan Canaan, threw the request out of court, saying that the attempt was absurd and that he should seek help elsewhere and not from the local authorities, The Times of Israel reported. God was not immediately available for comment.


false stalking injunctions in Pinellas County, FL

Here is a letter from a reader of this Blog to me all about her experiences with false stalking injunctions in Pinellas County Florida that were filed against her. Hi Chris, This is (Name Hidden)- We spoke around the 3rd of March. At this time, plz do not use my name but use Lady Warrior instead for now. I have successfully won all of my false stalking injunctions in Pinellas County, FL in the last three years... It has been a horrible experience! And financially draining as well! Especially, if you know how unfair and unbalanced this statute is! Free to file and the clerks even help them fill out the paperwork! Not to mention that you cannot expunge it--- Even if you get it dismissed, people can still view it and not see the dismissal etc. but your NAME ATTACHED TO THE WORD STALKING!
This literally insane criminal female misfit and her brother (etc), attempted to file six false stalking injunctions in Pinellas County Florida on me, but only three went before the court! One even became CASE LAW IN FLORIDA! The basis of this is retaliation, maliciousness because I am working w/ local L E, and the State as a whistle blower/informant regarding their economic criminal activity. Especially, after, I became one of their victims! . More on that later. Talk about watching perjury in action! Which, rately gets filed in the Tampa Bay area--- More on that soon- Here are some tips- *Document everything- keep a journal. *Educate yourself. *Contact (as high up as you can) in L E and the Courts etc. and let them know your concerns. Keep it up until they listen to you. Have a witness if you speak to them. I have had them twist things around... Lying!!! *E-mail and or write the Chief Circuit Court Judge! Use his own language- "To keep a fair and balanced Court"etc... *Contact the State Legislature! This statute needs to be modified to say the least! *Contact the media and or an investigative reporter! Be careful here as they can spin your story! *HIRE A COMPETENT CARING,COMPASSIONATE ATTORNEY THAT GETS IT AND WILL FIGHT FOR YOU! Remember, you know your story best... Pro se can be very difficult and can go sideways on you too--- Stay strong and positive- you are doing the right thing! Take care of yourself and speak to those only that support you... Do not be disrespectful or a hot head- it will get you no where when fighting a false stalking injunction in Pinellas County Florida! Pray- it does work! Warrior Lady


Temporary Order of Protection Questions

Hi. On Thursday, Feb. 18 at 1030pm my wife returned from her daughter and son in law's home. She was in a good mood earlier in the day, but came home in a depressed mood. She then complained that she wished she had more money to help the kids, even though we , including her and I , have helped them repeatedly. This escalated into an argument. During the argument, as I got up to leave the room and the discussion, she grabbed my arm and as I pulled away severely scratched my arm . She them hit me in the mouth causing the upper pallet to be torn and bleed. I told her I could call the police and register an assault charge. She saw the bleeding. Then she really fumed. She left the house and went for a walk. A few minutes later at 1130 pm two cops were at my door. One stayed outside with her and the other inside with me. She told her story separate from mine. Both cops, however saw the lip and pallet wound. Before they left , they suggested we separate for the evening. My wife went to her other daughter's house. This was at 1215 pm. At 330 am, my doorbell was ringing. I carefully looked out the window and saw two patrol cars. I didn't open the door. They left. At 800 am, my door bell was ringing. Now there were three patrol cars and they were walking around the property. Again, I didn't open the door. At 900 am, the alarm was deactivated, the door unlocked and my wife comes in with the 6 officers. They serve me with a Temporary Order of Protection. It had been granted at 1230 pm at the police station near my house. The hearing is in two weeks. Two of the officers followed me around the house while I packed some items for the next two weeks. I asked them why I was being put out of my house. They said that she got the Temporary Order of Protection first and I had not applied for one despite the fact that I was the injured and battered parti. They asked if I wanted to make a written statement to add to the report of the previous night. I did. They asked if I wanted to press charges and I said yes. At noon, I went to the emergency room, they took pictures, examined me, wrote a report and gave the report to me with the pictures. My question is....with the facts at hand, at the Hearing, once the judge sees the assault and battery, is it in my favor that the temporary order for protection in her favor be either dismissed or overturned and a new order be issued by the judge against her. This would include having her move out of the house. ANONOMOUS


Open Letter to Child Protective Services social workers

An Open Letter to Child Protective Services social workers Dear CPS social worker, I dont know you and you dont know me. Im sure you are expecting a bitter letter from a parent that had her children taken, but this letter is not meant to down you or be bitter toward you. It is a letter to hopefully, shed light and help you understand more about your role in this world. You made the choice to study social work in college, maybe from the start, you knew working for child protective services was your goal or perhaps it is one of the first jobs you were hired on to, but either way, your career was aimed towards helping others. That tells me that at one point theres a chance you were a compassionate human being that only wanted to help and change lives. You never imagined your job would be this. Destroying families in the name of help, being forced to follow the rules even when you dont morally agree, and working for a system that is so poorly funded. You are over worked and over booked, the dream you had for your career is but a distant memory. I know you use to feel so deeply and your emotions effected your work, but eventually you became desensitized. You no longer feel like you should and you condone this by saying you cant get that involved with your cases. Im sure you have witnessed some terrible things. Abuse, neglect, addiction, and mental health issues. You have seen the suffering of children and it is your job to save them. You take this job seriously and want what is best for the children. Its a shame that your heavy case loads and courts often keep you from doing what you know is right.Maybe you are one of the good ones, but are caught in a system that doesnt let you be good or maybe you arent one of the good ones, you feel nothing and are okay with ripping a family apart even if its not the right thing to do. You condone this by telling yourself that you are in a position to do what you have to do to protect these kids even if there is no viable evidence. You see yourself almost as a God playing Gods role. It doesnt concern you if it is right or wrong, because in your mind, you think it's better safe then sorry. You manipulate, you lie, you stare the grief of children and parents in the face without a flinch. Your income is good and your life isnt so bad, you probably have a beautiful family that you go home to every night to sleep peacefully with knowing that you are above the system. The federal government pays a hefty incentive to every child that is in your system and forced into adoption. It pays well so even if you know that the children in the system are in for a hard life, you dont care, you terminate the rights of parents that love their children more than life. Perhaps these parents needed some advice, resources, a hand up or even a hand out, but they surely didnt deserve to lose their children. You hear their cries of grief and witness their rage, they beg and they plead. They fight ruthlessly and finish your case plans for you to find more problems that dont really exist. You condemn parents for the things they do then go home to do the same. You are a hypocrite, a sociopath, and a problem in this world. Im not bitter, I am honest. I hope you can take what I say and use it to think about the things that you continue to do. Its not all your fault, the system is broken, but the good people figure that out and quit. That is why the turn over rate for your job is so high, because it takes a special kind of person to destroy lives. I am the mother of a little girl. I raised this litte girl for 4 years before she was ripped from my custody based on lies and manipulation. It has been a year, a year of hell and unimaginable grief. Their claims against me were mental health issues and their idea of helping was to rip my family apart. Ive never hurt my child or neglected her. Im no where near a perfect parent, but I am far from an unfit one. Ive struggled with depression and it has been a really hard battle, but despite it all,I still did what I needed to do for my child and I did it with love. I got my butt out of bed every morning to care for my child and although I fell short in some areas, the answer was never this. Ive been alienated and bullied while being forced to watch my daughter suffer over being taken from all shes ever known. Ive watched my bright, beautiful baby girl lose the sparkle in her eye and regress while she begs me to come home.Ive been the focus of her anger and confusion, I am blamed by her, not you. She doesnt understand. Id be lying if I said I didnt lose my mind the day they took her, but of coarse it was twisted on me and used against me. I would like to see the government kidnap your children and you keep your sanity. There are ways to help and there are ways to hurt people. I cannot believe that you work for a system and dont know the reality of the system you work for or the reality of foster care...or the reality of the chances of these children leading a successful life after losing their families. You know that children are usually safer with their family than in a foster care setting, but you also know there is no money to be made in that. If you only took the children that genuinely needed to be removed and kept the rest of the families together, just getting them the real help they need, you know there would be no money in that, but it would cost money to fund services to really help them. As of right now, you are banking more money than you are losing, so why change a thing? Why? I will tell you why, because family is all we really have in this world. Every family has their issues, I mean, look at our childhoods.None of had a perfect one, but most of us turned out okay regardless and couldnt imagine our life without our crazy relatives. Our children are our next generation in this country, if we continue to hurt them like this, we will continue to see our future generations decline. The money that could have been spent on preserving these families will now be spent on a life time of mental health treatment, welfare benefits, disability, and law enforcement, because those that come out of this system are more times than not destined to this lifestyle. You know this. I know that it runs so much deeper than just that. The time for change is now. Kept together and helped most of us would grow to be half way functional, decent human beings and then the cycle wouldnt be able to continue. The goverment needs this cycle to keep their control over us and keep up their finances. If you want to help then do us all a favor and stop turning a blind eye to the reality of the system. Do you want to save the children? Quit your job now and stand with us against what is happening to us and our children. If you dont quit your job, then do your job with morals and values. Every family that you meet, think about your own. Realize that you dont know everything and arent an expert at parenting. We are all different and what you think is right isnt always right. Help us, be a friend to us, educate us, support us, lift us up and keep our families together. Comfort the grieving and dont allow the corruption to dictate whether or not you do what is right even if this means standing alone without a job. Our children are too valuable for anything aside from this. There is no amount of money in this world good enough to do what you do. Please,take this to heart, because the change starts with you. God Bless America. Sincerely, A broken mother, Crystal Truitt