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False allegations of domestic violence arrest and dv-tro

False allegations of domestic violence arrest and dv-tro

Hayward Hall of Justice northern calif. Superior Court
June 2014 my sons father common law situation , illegal Alien
started causing arguments 4 years into the relationship , then if I got mad he would act like I was crazy and call the cops. janurary 3 times in one day , I was arrested jailed because I accidently caught his ear when I grabbed our son from him he blew it all out of proportion said I punched him . liar in june he picked up my son from school had me served at my doctors office by my neighbor and as a result I am evicted , homeless ,don't have my son , but there is a Brightside my friend is a pro per  champ she helped me respond to the dv-tro go to court and pointed out all of the lies in his application package , inconsistent with police reports , contradicted his own statements , pointed out his motives  immigration status under VAWA , and not wanting to pay child support , the judge terminated the dv-tro awarded joint legal and physical custody and granting me continuances to get myself together job wise and a roof over my head so that I will be able  to fight for sole custody or custodial joint on equal footing . never let a final custody order issue until you are givin a fair chance to overcome the unjust fraudulent allegation related harm . don't give up or give in to injustice .


Online National Domestic Violence Database

I’m writing you to see if you have interest in covering in your blog the launch of the country’s very first searchable online database of domestic violence agencies. It’s called and includes roughly all 3000 of the agencies in the US.

When someone visits, in a matter of seconds – from a desktop, smartphone or tablet – that person can find help closest to them based on their location, language and service preferences.

This release ( talks about the important strategic issues this new free non-profit service resolves. Succinctly put, finding help online has been too difficult up until now. The service is offered as a partnership between National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and my family’s charity Theresa’s Fund.

With the recent news about the NFL getting tough on abusive players and October being Domestic Violence Awareness month, and with 25% of women having experienced domestic violence, making your readers aware of this breakthrough service is both timely and potentially life-saving. 

Chris McMurry
Director, Theresa’s Fun


Bogus Restraining Orders

Many of us have been victims of people using restraining orders against us!
Here is a letter from a reader who had this experience.

Hi Kris, it's been a long time. I thought I'd update you regarding my situation. You may publish this if you like.

My friend and I were victimized by the same individual who had us served with bogus temporary restraining orders in 2010. We are both middle aged females. Our petitioner is a 6'4 professional athlete. He threatened another one of his ex-girlfriends, (because we "packed up on him"). A few weeks later, she died in a mysterious accident.

Several years and many court battles later, I decided to take a different career path. I am now 42 years old, and  in my 1st year of law school. I love every class, every word uttered, and every opportunity this experience can afford me. One of my motivating factors was what my friend and I had to deal with, on our own, because a non-American citizen abused our legal system in order to satisfy his own agenda. 

My motivation for law school is quite different from that of my fellow classmates. I doubt they've been in a situation in which they felt helpless in a domestic violence hearing, and were unable to afford representation. Though I'm specializing in Entertainment Law, I plan to do quite a bit of pro bono work in the field of bad faith litigation, including helping those victimized through the courts. 

What Mr. Knight is doing with this blog is important work. I've already pointed several of my classmates to this blog. If there are repercussions for deceiving the court, if a few cases of abuse of process prevail, perhaps this abuse will at least diminish. Many women worked very hard for many years in order to get legislation passed so that these temporary and permanent orders could be issued. For anyone to abuse that right is perverted. That kind of abuse cheapens the real victim who desperately needs the protection of the court.

I encourage everyone who has been a victim of a bogus restraining order to support individuals such as Mr. Knight, and keep writing your local and state representatives. There are people who can empathize with you and help you. Don't give up, and don't cross any lines so that you prove your accuser to be right. Keep up the good fight, and I hope to return in 3 years with a license to help you.