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Pauly Perrette Restraining Order Coyote Shivers

I don't watch TV, except for The History Channel and Football. I did not even know who Pauly Perrette was before this letter I received, or that she had a Restraining Order against her ex husband Francis "Coyote" Shivers. I do not know her ex husband either, or his new wife. The abuse of Restraining Orders has long been a topic we write about on this Blog. I am not taking sides in any of this between Coyote Shivers and Pauly Perrette.
I think our readers may be interested to follow this high profile restraining order violation and stalking case.
We welcome Pauly Perrette to tell our readers her version of this restraining order violation story, to be fair to her.
 Here is the email we received from Coyote Shivers


I saw your blog, and wanted to alert you to my case.  I have been the victim of Restraining Order abuse committed by the most famous False Accuser in America.  I do not have time to explain the entire case in writing, but I ask you to please see the links here and educate yourself about the case.  I believe it is sufficiently high-profile (and provably false, although I cant divulge exactly why prior to trial) that if enough attention was placed on this case it could possibly be a catalyst to changing laws.

Here is my wife and I swarmed by paparazzi after I was let out of jail recently on $100,000.00 bond:

And here is the website to follow the case:

Again, I can't divulge what we have to use at trial, but I personally guarantee you that VIDEO will prove this very famous person lied to get a Restraining Order, and that she is USING the Order as a weapon to stalk me and my wife.

Thank you for your time,
Francis Shivers

I just did the Google search a poster below suggested, and came up with conflicting information. I have no horse in this race. I am only interested in this case as to how it may or may not effect restraining orders, and their enforcement.
I found this, in support of Pauley Perrette's position. In the interest of fairness, I am posting it.

TV Actress Pauley Perrette's Endless Nightmare Divorce

You may not know the name Pauley Perrette right away, but if you watch CBS primetime, you know her face. She’s the attractive, spunky actress who plays Abby Suito on “NCIS,” starring Mark Harmon.
Abby is known for her high level of intelligence and playful energy, but in real life, the actress who plays her has been going through hell.

The reason is her ex-husband, 41-year-old Canadian Francis “Coyote” Shivers, a sometime musician and part-time club disc jockey who Perrette claims has been harassing her for the last two-and-a-half years, after almost four years of marriage.

Shivers — who according to court documents has many aliases, including Paul Edwards and Frank Keber — didn’t start his reign of terror with Perrette. His second-most recent ex-wife, Bebe Buell, who lives in Maine, has been inundated with a mountain of false police reports, invented complaints and restraining orders for years — all of which came after she told Shivers to leave and try to find work in Los Angeles in 1998.
“Instead, he found Pauley,” Buell says. “His next meal ticket.”

According to both women, Shivers stalked them and inflicted upon each of them endless mental distress. They each claim he terrorized them sexually during their respective relationships. When they compared notes, Buell and Perrette found that their situations, in fact, were eerily the same.

The women say Shivers, who denies everything, has been clever in his manipulation of the court system, too.
“He uses Family Court as his arena to harass women," Perrette alleges. "There’s no link between Family Court and Criminal Court. So he can commit perjury. He can put illegally gotten e-mails and false declarations into the court record. There’s no penalty for it.”

In 1999, once he was established in California, Shivers got a restraining order against Buell, even though she was 3,000 miles away and hadn’t seen him in a year.

Buell opted not to fight it, since she wasn’t going west, and eventually it expired. But she says her total costs in battling Shivers’ legal haranguing have now spiraled into the high five figures.

Perrette didn’t want her story to become public — “I didn’t want to be attached to him in the press,” she says — but once another alleged victim of Shivers came forward, she felt she had no choice.

In July, one of Shivers’ former girlfriends, Angela Garber, filed a complaint against him in Los Angeles Superior Court for assault, battery, sexual battery and intentional infliction of emotional distress.
But Garber waited two years to see an attorney after the alleged incidents, which is why the Los Angeles Police Department never took the case, I’m told.

“He threatened her if she ever talked to anyone,” Perrette said. Eventually, Garber contacted Buell, who put her in touch with Perrette.

Garber’s charges, which are on public record, are frightening if proved to be correct. They include several episodes of rape and sodomy, not to mention descriptions of Shivers locking her in car trunks or just plain hitting her.

At least one of these episodes occurred in Perrette’s house, only hours after she left. Shivers, in his court-filed response, denies all these charges. He claims that all these women are in collusion against him and even claims that they stalked him.

Full disclosure: I knew Shivers slightly in the mid-1990s when he was married to Buell and living in New York, although I haven’t seen him in at least eight years. Then around 32 years old, he fancied himself a rock star, although his only means of support was the occasional gig at tiny rock clubs in the East Village. His income was almost wholly derived from his marriage to Buell, who was then managing the career of her daughter, actress Liv Tyler.

When I heard four months ago that Shivers was making Perrette's life miserable, I went to visit her at her recently regained Hollywood home. According to Perrette, when she filed a restraining order against Shivers during their divorce, the judge in the case gave her two options:
“I could either have a restraining order or live there with him. Because of my fear of him, I left. I grabbed my two dogs, my cat and my laptop and I ran.”

For almost two years, Perrette has fought Shivers in court for the old rambling house she’d bought with her relatively small TV salary (she’s fifth-listed in billing on "NCIS"). When she finally took it back — after paying Shivers to leave a house he never owned or had title to, she says — Perrette says the place had been vandalized. There was writing and drawing on the walls and damage to pretty much every room.
“Rat and mice feces were all over the floor,” she says.

At a friend’s apartment where she was staying just down the hill, Perrette told me of her nightmare trying to get away from Shivers.

She detailed an unending series of harassments, including Shivers’ penchant for hacking into her computer — something she and Buell realized they had in common — and leaving thousands of notes on small pieces of yellow paper.

While we were talking, Perrette turned over a standing ashtray, and a yellow missive fell out.
“I thought I got the last of them,” she said, “but they are everywhere.”

She said the notes almost always carried threats written in the third person, like “Do not betray him.”
Shivers would leave confetti cut into heart shapes, she said, copied from a tattoo they’d both gotten long ago (and she has since had removed).

Perrette points out that the vandalism seems to be tied to the physical abuse. In Garber’s complaint, she alleges that Shivers branded the letter “C” into her back while she was tied to a chair. Perrette found the same branding all over her house.

Over the last two years, Perrette, Buell and several of Shivers’ other accusers have bonded. It's ironic, since it was Perrette’s signature on a complaint that secured a restraining order against Buell a few years ago.
Perrette claims that she knew nothing about it, and that her name was forged.

“I told Bebe she’s a really crappy stalker,” Perrette says with a rueful laugh. “She should try something else. In eight years I’ve never met her! She’s obviously not good at it!”

Perrette herself got a restraining order against Shivers in late 2004, which has been renewed several times. Nevertheless, she says, “Every bit of vandalism in my house is a violation of the restraining order. The restraining order states, among other things, no harassment, no leaving notes, etc. He destroyed my house, [and] that is as harassing as it gets.”

The next renewal hearing comes in November.

“My whole goal was to be able to work in television and film and maintain a normal life, never be in a tabloid. I was clean as snow. And now there’s this guy. And I find myself in the middle of a horror movie I didn’t audition for.”

Efforts to reach Shivers’ most recent attorney of record, Barbara J. Youngman, were frustrated by the lack of a phone listing anywhere, even in legal directories.

The inability to nail Shivers down and see him prosecuted for anything so far has been his accusers' biggest frustration.Perrette says many visits to the police have yielded no help.

“I’ve filed several police reports for violation of restraining order. He’s shown up at events he wasn’t invited to, and claimed I was stalking him. I reported the vandalism. I’ve been working with the Threat Management Unit, which is supposed to work on stalking cases.”

There have been no results so far. Why?
“That’s the question,” she says. “No one knows. Two different police officers and one lawyer told me I should have stayed and let him break my arms.”

Perrette recently turned to famed Los Angeles private investigator John Nazarian for help.
“I saw that he worked with the unit. You know, I love cops and I wanted to work well with them. His logo is 'Make Your Problem My Problem.' I feel like he’s working on this 24 hours a day so I can do my job. And I love my job.”

Nazarian says that after dealing with many celebrity stalkers, Shivers — who, we must add, denies it all — may be the worst. Perrette agrees.

“I’m the only thing standing between him and his next victim,” she says. “The three of us,” she adds, “fear for our lives 24 hours a day. We’re always looking over both shoulders.”


  1. Even just a cursory Google search reveals major problems with Mr. Shivers' story. If it were just the situation with Ms. Perrette, I might believe him, but 3 women who didn't know each other have similar complaints about Mr. Shivers. I feel sorry for the women here. And I am someone who thinks men generally get a raw deal, so.

  2. I too, have to take a closer look at both sides before supporting this man. It's frightening how these situations so quickly spin out of control.

  3. After checking the facts on this case, it sounds hauntingly familiar to mine. A non-citizen male gets a tro for his ex who lives 3,000 miles away? Really? Women bond together over a common abuser? Welcome to my world. To Mr. Shivers: Chris does an outstanding job to the community by providing information and support for REAL victims of bogus temporary restraining orders. Some of us have shared our nightmares with others on here, that we don't dare tell our families or closest friends. However, having been through our own individual nightmares, we can smell stink on a story from a mile away. This one, in my humble opinion, doesn't pass the smell test.

  4. mspms, that is exactly how I feel. I hate talking about my situation because I hate being touched by all this crazy. My harasser, on the other hand, acts like Mr. Shivers here, doing whatever she can to drum up attention to her "cause." She is a letter writing machine. I don't want to stoop to that level!! (I am a woman, my harasser is a woman, she took out a false restraining order against my husband and it all went off the rails from there.)

  5. Here's how everyone finally KNEW my petitioner was full of crap: my mutual no contact with him was for 6 months. He had another for a year with another ex girlfriend. Another ex-gf he was threatening with a tro, ended up dead under mysterious circumstances, 10 days after our hearings. A month before my mutual no contact order with him was about to expire, out of fear for my life, I asked the judge to extend it. MY PETITIONER SHOWED UP TO CONTEST THE EXTENSION! How do you like that? THEN, he filed a motion full of lies, stating the other woman and I violated the order. The judge almost threw him out of the hearing, TWICE, and at the end, told him to get the hell out of there and try to behave like an adult! His abuse of the system is perverse, and yes, I've written a blog about our ordeal, sort of anonymously.

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  7. Welcome, Steel Beams. It's so important that these individuals who LIE and abuse the courts are held accountable for their actions. What happened to us is embarrassing, but in the end, I had 2 of my petitioner's witnesses apologize to me in writing, for their involvement. One of his witnesses even put herself on the line, by writing to the judge and admitting that the information on her statement were 2nd hand facts that were fed to her by the petitioner. At the time, she believed in him. He's a con artist and a master manipulator. My friend and I, (the one who's still alive), were more than vindicated. We're still going after him for perjury and abuse of process. FIGHT BACK, PEOPLE!

  8. Look what he's doing to the "other" ex wife.
    Certainly this reveals a pattern of emotional abuse. He seems to have ransacked private papers and is exploiting her. Trying to bully her and harm her emotionally.
    What could any of this have to do with his current arrest and charges steming from his restraining order violations against Perrette?
    After doing some research I found that Ms. Buell has not been married to or even lived on the same Coast as this obvious predator for almost 15 years.
    He does to her what he claims both of these victims do to him- sound familiar? Projecting your
    own actions onto your victims- very common in these stalking cases.
    I suggest anyone here that questions what he is doing to these women to visit his Twitter- he shows himself very clearly. Sociopathic and in my opinion very frightening.
    His own writings and need to attack both of his ex wives so violently on the internet speaks for itself.
    After reading his letter posted above and then viewing that God awful "video", it just seems painfully clear he is doing this to both of these women for a "personal" or perhaps a financial agenda. He is filled with rage and hate.
    Notice too how he continually calls both of his ex wives his "stalkers". Again, it is very clear who the stalker is.
    I hope these women find some peace. This seems to be a never ending nightmare for them.
    I await the verdict from his trial. In the meantime, being arrested and put on probation, not to mention $100,000K bail, numerous restraining orders against him by 3 or more people- this has not stopped him from using social networking to harass Perrette and Buell almost daily. He even takes on the LAPD and Cops4Causes. Not too smart. Or perhpas he thinks he's above the law like most narcissist. I don't know anything about any "rape" charges but this other behavior alone shows disturbing movements on his part.
    Note that Wikipedia has him listed as a NOTABLE Vexatious Litigant~
    *Francis 'Coyote' Shivers, former husband of Bebe Buell and Pauley Perrette, deemed a Vexatious Litigant on August 27, 2008 by The Superior Court of Los Angeles County during a long ongoing trial between himself and Perrette.[52]*
    To have that ruling one must really abuse the system.

    1. I haven't read all of the above posts. I am writing this because I knew Coyote when he was Paul Edwards and attended Cayuga Secondary School in Cayuga, Ontario. FYI, he changed his name to Coyote Shivers for professional reasons and to acknowledge his native heritage, not to conceal any dark secret(s). When he left Canada to live in New York City I didn't see him much at all, just a couple of times when he was in Hamilton. He was my brother's best friend for years. In all the time I was acquainted with him, I only knew him to be balanced and easy going and very, very witty. Paul is a highly intelligent person and a gifted artist. As a teenager he didn't even smoke and certainly refrained from using drugs. All that changed when he moved to New York City and met Ms Buell. I'm not blaming her for his subsequent actions but he did undergo a transformation once he lived with her full time and was thrust into that lifestyle. Nevertheless he was very proud of her and her daughter and never complained about either of them. She was an overbearing person and would say demeaning things to Paul; this I learned from a mutual friend of ours who visited them several times. I believe that Buell and Perrette have much to gain by making these claims. Everyone wants to blame the "man" in such relationships, especially when he's a foreigner. I know him and unless he's had a brain injury, I find it hard to believe that he is the monster they describe. JB from Hamilton

    2. Then why does he claim his real name is Frank Kreba, Francis Coyote Shivers et al?

  9. I believe you're sincere. Here's my problem: I have an issue with a man filing an injunction against a woman, (Ms. Buell), especially when they live on opposite coasts. Something similar was done to me by a man a couple of years ago. A stress related heart condition was diagnosed over the weekend, and I know it started when my petitioner filed the tro against me and another woman. This issue is something I'm very passionate about. Be that as it may, I always want to hear both sides of the story, and I thank you for taking the time to tell it.

  10. I know Coyote and I know much of this situation. You guys neglect to acknowledge that Bebe travels a lot, just because she lives in NY doesn't mean she doesn't spend time in LA (celebrities remember). She has also stalked and hassled him via the internet for YEARS. As for the above article, do some research. That lawsuit filed by Angela Garber was dismissed 24 hours after a deposition was done with a witness who knew and could prove the accusations were all lies. Unfortunately, all you have to do to destroy someone's reputation these days is say they were "accused" .. that immediately makes them guilty because people never think someone would like about being raped and sodomised. But they do.

  11. Coyote Shivers is a liar and will be served justice. When the court transcripts are released, you'll see how.

  12. Update: Coyote Shiver was convicted today in los angeles court . Now it's just a wait until the sentencing .

  13. believe Shivers was railroaded with narcissism, money and who knows what else for what reason. Funny how the end of the story is scarcely covered in the main stream media