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Domestic Violence Tampa Florida - Causes

I voluntarily attended Tampa Domestic Violence Classes, and got a lot out of them. You learn in the Domestic Violence Classes that what leads to abuse is lack of Control. We were taught in the Tampa Domestic Violence classes to stand up, and draw a circle around our feet. Anything INSIDE the Circle, we can control (ourselves), and we are powerless over things OUTSIDE the Circle. A good lesson all of us need to remember for daily life (though few of us practice this perfectly). The Tampa Domestic Violence Counselor also taught us to repeat "I am powerless over people, places, and things" when we find ourselves in situations that are getting us upset. Usually, what makes us angry, is we are attempting to control some person, place, or thing. Control of others is doomed to failure. All we can really control is ourselves. Doing a search for causes of domestic violence, I found this article.



What Causes Domestic Violence?

By Toby D. Goldsmith, MD

Domestic violence in Tampa may start when one partner feels the need to control and dominate the other. Abusers may feel this need to control their partner because of low self-esteem, extreme jealousy, difficulties in regulating anger and other strong emotions, or when they feel inferior to the other partner in education and socioeconomic background. Some men with very traditional beliefs may think they have the right to control women, and that women aren’t equal to men.
This domination then takes the form of emotional, physical or sexual abuse. Studies suggest that violent behavior often is caused by an interaction of situational and individual factors. That means that abusers learn violent behavior from their family, people in their community and other cultural influences as they grow up. They may have seen domestic violence often or they may have been victims themselves.
Children in Tampa who witness or are the victims of domestic violence may learn to believe that violence is a reasonable way to resolve conflict between people. Boys who learn that women are not to be valued or respected and who see domestic violence directed against women are more likely to abuse women when they grow up. Girls in Tampa who witness domestic violence in their families of origin are more likely to be victimized by their own husbands.
Alcohol and other chemical substances may contribute to violent behavior. A drunk or high person will be less likely to control his or her violent impulses.

1 comment:

  1. It is very crucial. Every parents should understand the mentality of their child.