Restraining Order Blog gets lots of letters from our readers. It is our policy to publish them, so those going through the restraining order experience can get input and support, This is an email we just received from one of our readers. It has had all names removed to protect privacy.
My ex-girlfriend and I argued constantly over the last three months of our relationship. It came to a head the day, THE DAY, I moved in. She accused me of trying to set up dates with an old girlfriend when all I was doing was trying to give her back the four books she lent me.
Well, the arguing escalated and I touched her in anger. Four days later, FOUR DAYS, after constantly arguing, I had enough and told her that I was moving back to Orlando. (She lives in Melbourne)
Well, she called the cops and, with the coaching of her daughter who works for the state of Florida Child Protective Services, convinced the investigating officer to charge me with Domestic Violence by Strangulation. A third degree felony. Before she called, she texted me and threatened to commit suicide if I left, THEN she threatened me that she would call the cops.
This occured on July 14th, 2010. Well, back in June when we were just a loving, constantly fighting couple, I took her down to Delray Beach for the week. Her computer broke and I had just been givien a knew one for work bt didn't want to use it due to all the work I had on my old one.
She had some pictures that I liked and I decided to email them to my yahoo account using my new computer. I cc'd her as well. This occurred on June 14th.
Now, the Victim's Advocate decided that I was a big monster and convinced her to get a restraining order on me. I was served papers on my 53rd birthday, Aug. 10th. Also on that day, I was finally in a position to start using my new computer and decided to begin using it.
Much to my dismay, the pictures that I sent on June 14th, and are dated on my computer as sent that day, arrive in email account and her AOL email acct.
The Hearing took place on Aug. 19th. I was fearful that the judge would make the injunction forever, so I agreed to it. Even though she lied about the incident and told the judge that she caught me texting women, plural, trying to set up dates. The judge set it up for a year.
In October my court case, which by now had been reduced to Battery Domestic Violence, a misdemeanor, was set for jury trial. My attorney told the State Attorney that this was nothing, that she had threatened suicide and call the cops, and showed him the text messages. In addition, her calling four days after the incident didn't set very well.
I finally agreed to plea to Breach of Peace, Disoederly Conduct. No probation, Adjudication of Guilt Witheld, and a $221.00 fine.
I was set to plea on Oct. 22. On Oct. 21st, I get a criminal summons for four violations on the condition of my release. The four pictures I sent to her on June 14th but did not get received until Aug. 10th.
This was the day before, THE DAY BEFORE, my plea deal with the state attorney.
I gave my attorney all the documentation that I had that verified I sent the emails on June 10th. My Docket Sounding is this Tuesday, Dec. 14th.
I spent two nights in jail, spent close to $10,000 in bond, attorney, and other costs, lost half my living room furniture, a t.v., assorted clothing, some small appliances, a barbecue grill and accessories, weeks of work, and a great amount of anxiety.
I have a restraining order against me until Aug. 19th 2011, and am STILL not done with this crap.
Oh yeah, I should mention that the woman was abused as a child, battered for 20 years by her ex-husband, date raped and stalked, then became an alcoholic. My restraining order was the FOURTH one she has been involved in. Two against one guy, one against her, for 10 years, and mine.
With the Lord, I will carry on!
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