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I found this in a Google Search. It sure is something to think about ? Though statistics tell us that domestic violence is about 50/50 women to men, when is the last time you can remember a woman being arrested and charged with domestic violence, much less convicted ? Men are 30 times as likely to be arrested for domestic violence.

It is a basic principle of law that a person is presumed innocent until proven guilty.  However there is an a priori presumption to the contrary regarding males; nearly every cop in the country lives for the opportunity to rescue damsels in distress from predicaments with men, and prosecutors are frothing to convict.  Innocence is no defense.
On the other hand, if a woman is at fault there is a great closing of eyes and opening of hearts – legality be damned.  Women are favored from decision to arrest, to amount of bail required, to guilt or innocence in judgment, to severity of sentence, to physical conditions of imprisonment, to release on parole.  Women are charged fewer times than men for violent crime, convicted less when guilty of the same crimes as men, and are given shorter sentences or simply receive probation.  Judges are reluctant to jail women; while men are arrested 4 times as often as women, they are imprisoned 24 times as often.
A substantial percentage of all convicted male prisoners are actually innocent, scapegoated victims of ambitious, man-hating or Feminist-pandering prosecutors or judges.  This large number attests to the blatant indifference toward justice for men, and the haste of prosecutors, judges and juries to convict men merely because of their sex.
In Darkness at Noon, Arthur Koestler wrote of the nightmarish world of the Stalinist Soviet secret police, wherein all accused were guilty and protestations of innocence were acts of subversion.  Koestler describes how police power was used to extract confessions, and the way perfectly innocent men were manipulated into publicly declaring their crimes and their guilt.
Mark Wayne Rathbun raped 14 women around Long Beach California from 1997 to 2002.  None died or were seriously physically harmed according to newspaper accounts.  In September 2004 he was sentenced to 1,030 years plus 10 life terms.  Contrast that with the sentences given Andrea Yates and Susan Smith for murder of their children by drowning (Yates – 5 children, Smith – 2).  They each got one life sentence and, as everyone knows, will be home in a few years.  Incredibly enough, on January 6, 2005, a 3-judge Appeals Court panel overturned Yates’ conviction because the prosecution’s psychiatrist was confused regarding an episode of TV’s Law & Order.  Out on bail, she will get a new trial or be allowed to plead down.  Both Andrea’s husband and Susan’s ex-husband chivalrously ran to their defense.
Society has lost its sense of proportion.  A woman can murder a man and receive less punishment than a man who cannot pay his alimony or who urinates in the street.  Women who kill their spouse, even while not in immanent and immediate danger, need only murmur “brutality” and hearts begin bleeding.  No rebuttal is possible; the victim is dead.  It happens so often I no longer keep files on it.
In The Myth of Male Power , Warren Farrell  outlined the 12 female-only defenses that let women off the hook for murder.  Many who were found guilty have convinced governors of their states that such actions are acceptable and that they should be pardoned.  A Milwaukee Journal writer, Beth Slocum, termed it “progressive” when a woman convicted of killing her husband spent only 12 hours in jail; then returned home to live with her children.
Jilted actress Claudine Longet, who killed live-in lover Spider Sabitch because he found a new girlfriend, was convicted and sentenced to 30 days, the same sentence a young Wisconsin lad served in l984 for playing hooky, and a Cheyenne, Wyo. man for violating a local ordinance by fishing with a worm instead of a fly.  She served the time at her convenience in a specially redecorated cell.
Doris Keningale of Risca, South Wales, in the U.K., stabbed her husband to death with a eight-and-a-half-inch knife blade.  Judge John Griffith Williams QC, of Cardiff Crown Court, was told the knife accidentally “entered her husband’s chest.”  The chivalrous jurist sentenced her to three-years of community rehabilitation.
In February 2005, Carisa Ashe, a 34-year-old Atlanta woman who had 8 children by 8 different men, plead guilty to brutally killing her five-week-old daughter.  Fulton County District Attorney Paul Howard agreed to a plea bargain that would allow the woman to avoid a murder trial and possible prison sentence if she would agree to be surgically sterilized.  Such agreements are not uncommon.  Some common sense Georgians initiated a move to recall Howard from office.
Acquittal, token punishment or forgiveness of women who murder and maim men signals open season on men.  This is a license to kill.  Women premeditate over half of the domestic murders they commit, and yet half of them claim self-defense quite successfully.  They are convicted of between l5 and 26 percent of the homicides in this country, but suffer less than l percent of the executions, proportionately 50 times less than men in relation to their murder conviction rate.  Between 1930 and 1995, 3,313 males have been executed and only 30 females.
Men are assumed to deserve capital punishment and death because they are perceived to have less value than women.  Thirty eight states and the Federal government have the death penalty.  While that penalty is eminently appropriate in many cases, because of the haste to condemn males to death perhaps it ought to be suspended unless and until justice prevails.  Admittedly though, in recent years the lengthy appeals process has greatly minimized chances of executing the innocent.
In battered baby cases, guilty fathers are fined heavily or jailed.  Mothers, guilty of more and worse cruelty, are usually put on probation and ordered to get psychiatric help.  In other words, if the father does it, he’s a criminal: if the mother does it, she is mentally ill and needs help.
Alba Ingrid Scarpelli, of Germantown, Alabama, was convicted of multiple counts of child abuse for tying up and torturing her 5-year-old son, Richard.  Her sentence?  18 months on work release.  The boy’s father, Alan Lee Holmes, merely stood by while girlfriend Scarpelli committed the abuse.  His sentence?  EIGHT YEARS in prison.  She does the crime; he does the time.
The Galahad that presided over both the Ashe (previous page) and Scarpelli cases and perpetrated the outrages was Montgomery County Circuit Court Judge DeLawrence Beard.  His “reasoning” in the second case?  Holmes was the father; he had a “higher duty” to protect his son.  Quoth Beard, “You are going to receive a substantially more severe sentence because you were substantially more culpable…  You were in a superior position to intervene and stop this.”  Beard pointed to Holmes’s former job as a volunteer firefighter and certification as a medical technician as reasons the father should have seen the signs of abuse.
In Will County, Illinois, near Chicago, forty-four year old Fred M. Flynn and his thirty-four-year old wife, Rita, were convicted of selling their twelve-year-old daughter in 1972 for marriage to a wealthy man for $28,000.  Although they both pled guilty to the identical charge, the man got a five-month jail sentence and the wife got probation.
Heiress Patty Hearst  joined the Symbionese Liberation Army in 1974, become a gun-wielding revolutionary called Tania and held up banks.  Bobbi Parker left her family and ran off with escaped convict and murderer Randolph Dial, helping him hide for 10 years.  Lord knows how many similar stories exist.  All with no penalty, because they were initially coerced.
In October of 2005 Lynndie England of Abu Ghraib fame was sentenced to 3 years for mistreating prisoners.  Her equally guilty male co-operative, Pvt. Charles Graner Jr., is serving 10 years in Leavenworth.
Male defenders of U.S. borders are treated more harshly than a female saboteur.  Border agents Ignacio Ramos and Jose Alanso Compean shot and slightly wounded a drug smuggler fleeing back across the Mexican border.  They were sentenced to 11 and 12 years respectively, despite their claim of self-defense.  A woman in their shoes probably would have been hailed as a hero.  In the same week, attorney Lynne Stewart, who smuggled messages from imprisoned terrorist Sheik Omar Abdel Rahman to his co-conspirators in Egypt, had her wrist slapped with a 28 month sentence.
Practically every time a man and woman get into a physical fight, regardless of who is the aggressor, the man is blamed.  If married, police usually throw him out of his house.  As 17-year Seattle family law attorney Lisa Scott explains, “From top to bottom the current domestic violence system won't let women be anything but victims and can't see men as anything but batterers.  And from the moment a 911 call is made there is practically no such thing as an innocent man.  It doesn't matter that you're actually innocent.  Or that she attacked you first.  Or that you both went over the line and that both of you want to put it behind you and work it out.  The system will prosecute you and persecute you until you've confessed your sins — even if you've none to confess.  And you're not cured until they say you're cured — even if you were never sick to begin with.”
If a man is caught looking into a home in which a woman is undressing, he will be arrested for voyeurism.  If a woman is looking, again the man will be arrested; this time for indecent exposure.  It happened; the Mississippi Supreme Court rationalized the verdict, as did courts in Delaware County Pennsylvania and Portsmouth, Virginia.  There are hundreds of such cases.  In Texas a man and woman violated a local ordinance by swimming in the nude.  Police arrested only the man.
There was great umbrage when Judge Edward Cashmen of Vermont handed down a 60-day sentence to Mark Hulett in January of 2006 for raping an 11-year-old girl; as well there should be.  But where is the umbrage when the sexes are reversed?  25 year-old Tampa Florida schoolteacher Debra Lafave pled guilty to repeated instances of sex with a 14-year old boy.  Playboy pretty, her lawyer argued that she was “too pretty” to go to jail.  Charges were dropped when the boy refused to testify.  That is but one of many such instances.  43-year-old Pamela Diehl-Moore, a middle school teacher, had sex with a 13-year-old male student.  Considering all the intense media coverage of male sexual predators victimizing female children, one might expect a stiff prison term, accompanied by a withering rebuke.  Not so; New Jersey Superior Court Judge Bruce A. Gaeta slapped her hand with a five years probation, and all but suggested that sentence was too harsh.  In yet another recent court case, U.S. District Judge J. Thomas Marten in Kansas also questioned whether sex with kids was really bad.  Shades of Mary Kay Letourneau.  Imagine the sentence if the sexes had been reversed.
In 1997 female B52 pilot Kelly Flinn committed adultery with the husband of an enlisted woman, lied to her superiors and refused to follow orders.  She was allowed to resign from the Air Force instead of being court-marshaled as would have been the fate of any male officer.
Prostitution  is another example of the double standard.  It is the only transgression in which the buyers of an illegal commodity are considered as culpable as the sellers, or more so, because they are men.  One might expect the prostitute to be a more socially undesirable creature than her customer; evidently not.  In Sweden (does this surprise you?) the clients of prostitutes are prosecuted, but the prostitutes are not.  Extending the logic of this nonsense makes buyers of stolen goods and of drugs as culpable as the fences and pushers, which might rationalize the consideration by prosecutors and the media that Rush Limbaugh was more culpable than his female supplier.
Police officers around the country dress as women or use policewomen to entrap men, then arrest those who respond.  Yet a man who with a detective watched his wife have intercourse with another man was denied a divorce on grounds of adultery because of “entrapment.”  The court rationalized he could have stopped her (It might be interesting to attempt citizen's arrests of policewomen shills for soliciting).  In a 15 month study, men were defendants in 63 percent of prostitution cases prosecuted by the St. Paul, Minnesota City Attorney’s Office.  Ponder this convoluted logic: some years ago Minnesota prostitution laws were held unconstitutional by Judges Ledbodott and Riley because they discriminate against women.  Yet laws which explicitly punish only males for non-support have been held to be constitutional.
A man stealing thousands of dollars is a felon.  A woman defrauding the welfare department of the same amount is winked at.  California’s “three strike law” incarcerates men for 25 years to life, with over half (57%) of its subjects guilty of non-violent offenses.  In one case, Santo Reyes was sentenced to 26 years to life for trying to take the written portion of a driver’s license test for his illiterate cousin.  Previously, Reyes had a juvenile burglary conviction in 1981 and an adult robbery conviction in 1987.  Kentucky’s “three-strike law,” which includes even minor offenses, increased their prison population by 600 percent.
This writer was successful in obtaining the release of a perfectly normal man who was locked in a Minneapolis psychiatric ward at the request of a wife from whom he wanted a divorce.  His “abnormality” was having a girl friend.  The wife coaxed him to a purported marriage counselor, actually a psychiatrist, who, deeming his behavior to be “inappropriate,” signed commitment papers.  One call from the Men’s Defense Association to that psychiatrist, and the man was released.  Can you imagine the jailing of an unfaithful wife?
Queens New York Judge Duane Hart sentenced John Modica to 30 days in jail (the same as Claudine Longet ’s sentence for murder) because Modica peacefully approached the judge in a parking lot asking for a continuance to attend his son’s soccer game.
Evidently the right of an accused to have a speedy trial applies only to women: Charles Thomas Sell, once a successful dentist in St. Louis County Illinois who treated many indigent patients, was accused of Medicaid fraud in 1997.  He has spent nearly eight years in prison without a trial.  Although Sell has never hurt anyone, and a federal court held that he poses no danger to those around him, prison officials frequently placed him in solitary confinement for nearly two of those years.  Mr. Sell is kept locked up under the pretense that his unwillingness to admit his guilt is evidence that he is mentally incompetent.  Seventy-year-old Roy Chuster was confined for 30 years in a New York hospital for the criminally insane because he complained about jail corruption.  U.S. Appeals Judge Irving Kaufman called it a “shocking story.”
If a man kills a fetus against the mother’s will he has murdered a human being.  If her abortionist does it, it’s her “right” and the fetus loses human status, even if already 4/5ths out of her body.  A glaring, example of this is the conviction and life sentence of 18-year-old Gerardo Flores of Lufkin, Texas.  His pregnant 16-year-old girlfriend, Erica Basoria, tried unsuccessfully to induce miscarriage then asked Gerardo to kick her in the stomach, causing the death of their twins.  The equally guilty Basoria was not charged.  Another example is the murder of Laci Peterson and her unborn son, Connor.  Her husband Scott was convicted of killing both, of 1st degree murder of Laci and of 2nd degree murder of Connor.  He received the death penalty.  Yet she and an abortionist could have killed Connor without danger of conviction.  Woman who damage their babies during pregnancy by fouling their bodies with poisons (nicotine, alcohol, dope, etc.) are seldom prosecuted.
If these were unusual situations, I would have little reason to write about crime and punishment, and could stick to my original concern about anti-male discrimination in divorce, which is more prevalent if not more shocking.  But the plight of such men isn’t unusual.  Similar outrages are happening in courts across our land every day.  If the objects of this pogrom were women, or even real criminals, any number of individuals and organizations would be loudly defending and inventing their rights and stretching the Constitution incredibly to protect same.

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