NYC Restraining Order Help Needed
If anyone in NYC, N.Y. can help James out with his restraining order situation, please contact him.
Hello, my name is James I have a Federal Officer position with the United States Department of Treasury, and I am currently going through a situation in which my soon to be ex-wife filed for a restraining order against me and its simply to destroy my life. I suspected she was cheating and I told her I want a divorce on December 6, 2009. She agreed to leave our home and go live with her mother. The next day she went to the police telling them nothing but lies claiming I previously hit her, I'm sending her threatening text messages and making many threatening phone calls to her. She also stated that I said I would kill her and she can never leave me. Everything she indicated in the restraining order was a lie and made absolutely no sense. I stayed in our home and she moved some of her things from our home. Then on December 8, 2009, she went to the police and claimed I was in front of her mothers home at 7am, in the morning just sitting in my car. The police came to my home in the evening and although I told the police I could prove I was at work all day from 7am, to 3:30pm, they still arrested me and I spent 20 hours in jail for absolutely nothing. During the final hearing for the restraining order my soon to be ex-wife testified for approximately 45 minutes and she went on and on telling lies about how I hit her and chocked her on numerous occasions. She claimed I was a heavy alcohol drinker. She stated I have relatives in my family who have murdered police officers. She discussed how she was raped when she was in high school and she is fearful of many things. She cried three times during her testimony. She stated she never went to the police before when I previously hit her because she thought you could only go to the police if you have marks on your body. This is a woman with a Bachelors degree, she is a teacher and clearly knows you can go to the police for almost anything. When I testified of course I denied ever hitting her because I never hit her or any other woman in my entire life. I provided phone records to the judge showing that I never called her because I was pretty much done with the marriage and I never called her during the days surrounding the incident. The only text message I sent her was that I want a divorce. I provided the judge with emails from her leading up to the incident with her indicating she is the one who wants to stop drinking and potentially has a drinking problem. My attorney informed me that almost in all these cases the judge sides with the woman in New Jersey. The judge made the decision to issue a permanent restraining order with no real evidence. How can these laws be Constitutional? She was able to obtain a permanent restraining based on lies. I am the only victim in this situation and there has to be a way that I can obtain justice in the United States of America. Can you please provide me with people I can possibly contact to help me with this situation.
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