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11/05/2017

Personal Protection Order (PPO) Questions

Here are some Personal Protection Order Questions from one of our readers.

My wife left me out of the blue, took $20,000 out of our mutual bank accounts, took both vehicles, took our dogs, furniture, shut off our electric, my phone, our cable and internet, and moved into her boyfriends home.  I lost my job because I could not call in or get to work.  Then she told the police that I had chest bumped her, so they came to my home everyday for 9 days while she removed property from the home.  I could not do anything about it.  After 2 weeks of her torture I was able to get back on my feet, at this point she had played the victim and painted me black to everyone I know, nobody would even speak to me.  He cousin messaged me one day after I had met with the Catholic Diocese in regards to my wife abruptly leaving our marriage trying to figure out what I may have done to deserve this.  In talking with her cousin I stated our marriage vows to him, for better or for worst, sickness and in health, till death do us part.  He forwarded this to her and she got a PPO put on me for a death threat and stating that I have many guns.  I dont even own a gun.  I also stated to her cousin that she was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder which she also reported was false in her PPO request.  I have her books, her diagnosis from her psych doc, and a letter she had written to me stating she was diagnosed with that.  I also have all of her appointments and medications she was to be on as she used my HSA card to pay for everything.  My wife recently gave me HPV, 3.5 years after being together.  We had also just bought our dream home.  She had to have a oblation done because of the damage it did to her cervix.  We were only in our new home for 3 weeks, just got the OK to have children and she bolted, taking everything.  Just recently I had went to a mutual friends two year old sons birthday party to drop off a gift.  I pulled into a parking lot close to the building where the party was, not even the same parking lot as the building and as I stepped outside the vehicle there where two police men that pulled up behind me. 
 They asked my name, I told them who I was and they place me in their vehicle under arrest for a PPO violation.  My wife was at the birthday party, I did not know, and at a minimum 300ft from the building.  I never even seen her, she heard that I was coming and had the police waiting for me to arrive.  How can this even be legal?  I was told by the police that she calls at least twice a day claiming PPO violations, they stated that she called the night before reporting she seen me but I never even left my home.  I have never contacted her in any way shape or form.  Ohh, she was taken off her meds for 3 months during the HPV thing, so that we could start having children as soon as she was cleared.  My assumption is she lost her sense of reality, all she can do to save her behind in divorce is has me locked up.  I did file a motion against the PPO the day I received it, however it took 45 days to get a court date.  I am supposed to go to court for this in 13 days, however I now have to deal with this mess.  What are my rights, and why is it that woman can just say whatever they want with no evidence and they believe them, yet I have all the evidence in the world and cant get anyone to even look at it.  HELP!!

2 comments:

  1. Are you "back on your feet" to the extent where you can afford a lawyer? You have more legal issues than just the restraining order--you also have the alleged violation of the restraining order as well as what I presume will soon be a divorced. These are not do it yourself projects and I don't see this going well for you without an attorney.

    However just with regard to the restraining order. You should get a copy of all police reports and petitions that she has filed. Be prepared to question her in court as well as with evidence that might show she is not telling the truth. You have asked why you can't get anyone to look at your evidence, but it isn't clear whether you've had your day in court. Court is the place to present your evidence. Cops don't really deal with evidence--they deal with things like probable cause. And they probably thought that, finding you near an event your ex-wife was at, that there was probable cause to make an arrest.

    It is a sad situation, but I'd recommend avoiding "mutual friends" for now at least until you can get the restraining order dismissed. This is especially true since she seems to be making an effort to turn those "mutual friends" against you. Do you have any friends or family who are solely YOUR contacts--not hers--that you can turn to for support during this difficult time?

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  2. Interestingly, an e-book I just read, "Restraining Order 911" by Ron Lasorsa does recommend proceeding pro se (without an attorney). Not sure if I agree with that viewpoint but that is what he says.

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