This Blog is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Some posters are court ordered to have no contact of any kind with the person having a Restraining Order against them. Meaning no third party contact as well. If you by chance know a person one of our posters/authors is discussing to share their experiences with others, we ask you to respect our rights to free speech, under the United States Constitution. Restraining Order Blog is not meant to harass, directly or indirectly contact, harm, intimidate, bring any emotional distress, stalk or cyberstalk, nor intentionally slander or damage any individual in any way. Nor is it intended to initiate any third party contact on behalf of any poster or author, or violate a current restraining order in any way either. If you feel there is anything here that is slanderous, untrue, or illegal, please bring it to our attention. We will examine your request promptly, and any post you find offensive will be reviewed for removal in a timely manner. If you have a story to share, email me at ka7niq@yahoo.com, and I will add you as an author on Restraining Order Blog.












11/05/2017

Personal Protection Order (PPO) Questions

Here are some Personal Protection Order Questions from one of our readers.

My wife left me out of the blue, took $20,000 out of our mutual bank accounts, took both vehicles, took our dogs, furniture, shut off our electric, my phone, our cable and internet, and moved into her boyfriends home.  I lost my job because I could not call in or get to work.  Then she told the police that I had chest bumped her, so they came to my home everyday for 9 days while she removed property from the home.  I could not do anything about it.  After 2 weeks of her torture I was able to get back on my feet, at this point she had played the victim and painted me black to everyone I know, nobody would even speak to me.  He cousin messaged me one day after I had met with the Catholic Diocese in regards to my wife abruptly leaving our marriage trying to figure out what I may have done to deserve this.  In talking with her cousin I stated our marriage vows to him, for better or for worst, sickness and in health, till death do us part.  He forwarded this to her and she got a PPO put on me for a death threat and stating that I have many guns.  I dont even own a gun.  I also stated to her cousin that she was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder which she also reported was false in her PPO request.  I have her books, her diagnosis from her psych doc, and a letter she had written to me stating she was diagnosed with that.  I also have all of her appointments and medications she was to be on as she used my HSA card to pay for everything.  My wife recently gave me HPV, 3.5 years after being together.  We had also just bought our dream home.  She had to have a oblation done because of the damage it did to her cervix.  We were only in our new home for 3 weeks, just got the OK to have children and she bolted, taking everything.  Just recently I had went to a mutual friends two year old sons birthday party to drop off a gift.  I pulled into a parking lot close to the building where the party was, not even the same parking lot as the building and as I stepped outside the vehicle there where two police men that pulled up behind me. 
 They asked my name, I told them who I was and they place me in their vehicle under arrest for a PPO violation.  My wife was at the birthday party, I did not know, and at a minimum 300ft from the building.  I never even seen her, she heard that I was coming and had the police waiting for me to arrive.  How can this even be legal?  I was told by the police that she calls at least twice a day claiming PPO violations, they stated that she called the night before reporting she seen me but I never even left my home.  I have never contacted her in any way shape or form.  Ohh, she was taken off her meds for 3 months during the HPV thing, so that we could start having children as soon as she was cleared.  My assumption is she lost her sense of reality, all she can do to save her behind in divorce is has me locked up.  I did file a motion against the PPO the day I received it, however it took 45 days to get a court date.  I am supposed to go to court for this in 13 days, however I now have to deal with this mess.  What are my rights, and why is it that woman can just say whatever they want with no evidence and they believe them, yet I have all the evidence in the world and cant get anyone to even look at it.  HELP!!

8/31/2017

Victimized By Florida Restraining Order

Hello
I'm being victimized in the same way as the blog mentions my wife lied to get into shelter and had painted me as an abuser when she's never been abused ever in her life. They pressured her to file a Florida restraining order with promise of $1500 which she did it to get this money but now can't text or call me
Any help how to deal with this please contact me - it seems the government is against me based on her word alone and prevents me from talking to my spouse to work out the marital problems and uses its taxpayer funds to help her when she is not in any real need - it's like an innocent man trying to go against a system that is above the law and the injustice is rampant with no recourse for the innocent man like myself... 
I feel like I'm the victim in this whole thing being victimized by the shelter and system that's above the law and is funded by tax dollars with no checks to see if the woman's telling the truth just believe whatever lie she tells to give her benefits and free legal help etc when I have to hire lawyer to defend myself etc and they prevent married people from working out their issues because you aren't allowed to speak to your spouse etc instead they should offer counseling to try to save marriages - this is Florida it's happening to me in and they claim to be family friendly state - bs 
If anyone has any help please post something here for me

1/31/2017

The Harm of False Domestic Violence Allegations

The Harm of False Domestic Violence Allegations

Alexa Martin

Every couple fights, the only difference is how heated the fight becomes and what actions take place following the spark of the argument. Take Jeff and his girlfriend, for instance. Both are in their mid-twenties and his girlfriend tends to ‘go off the deep end’ when arguing. Last week, she called the cops on him and claimed he grabbed her by the wrists in attempt to control her. While Jeff was grabbing her wrists in defense, the police arrested Jeff and now he is undergoing extensive scrutiny by police as well as the public. Jeff’s girlfriend called the cops in an emotional state where she thought she could just have Jeff removed for the night. Instead, he is now potentially faced with life-altering judgements by society as well as a restraining order.

False Domestic Abuse Allegations
It is common for a man or woman to call the police during an altercation if an argument gets emotionally and physically charge in efforts to protect oneself. There are many common examples of false abuse allegations such as:

·       Self-defense situations
·       Automatic reactions to pranks
·       Unintentionally blocking the exit
·       Holding the arms of the other person during an altercation.

The list of possible false abuse allegations is extensive but the bottom line is that once a domestic violence call is made, the police must continue the investigation. Typically, nobody can drop the charges but the district attorney. This means that if you claim domestic abuse in the home, and regret it later due to the false allegation, it is now in the hands of the law and the repercussions will follow the abuser.
Most states are required to follow through with an arrest during a domestic violence call to ‘error on the side of caution’. Often restraining orders are brought to the alleged abuser to separate the two-people involved in the violent altercation. Unfortunately, according to an organization called Save Services, 70% of restraining orders are false and 700,000 people are wrongfully arrested for domestic violence every year. Since a restraining order is an official court order, regardless of if you committed domestic violence or not, there are serious consequences if any violation occurs. Craig Orent, a specialized domestic violence lawyer, lays out the different forms of domestic violence:

·       Physical Violence
·       Sexual abuse
·       Psychological abuse
·       Emotional abuse
·       Forced economic dependency

Each form of domestic violence has different repercussions depending on the violence and severity in each case. For example, according to Arizona law, domestic violence can be anything like:

·       Intimidation
·       Harassment
·       Stalking
·       Videotaping without consent
·       Endangerment
·       Kidnapping
·       Emotional abuse
·       Aggressive behavior

The unjust nature of false accusations of domestic abuse extend beyond tarnishing another person's’ reputation in their family, society, and the workplace, but subjecting someone to a restraining order can result in serious fines or jail time if the wrongfully accused ‘abuser’ unintentionally violates the court order. Additionally, the alleged abuser could potentially walk away with an arrest, fines, and jail time for a false conviction; on the other hand, the district attorneys in the United States have never prosecuted the person who made the false claim. Essentially, one party could lose everything while the guilty party could walk away unscathed.

Ultimately, Jeff did not receive jail time because the case was built upon facts and the facts only showed how great he was as a boyfriend- no sign of any abuse. His record was clean, he cooperated with the police force, he hired an experienced attorney, and he is one of the lucky ones that is able to move on knowing he was exonerated.

Domestic violence is a horrible crime that deserves to be punished, but a false allegation is also detrimental and can lead to penalties in all aspects of life. Awareness about the effects of domestic violence false allegations and unnecessary restraining orders is imperative in order maintain a society who upholds justice.

1/30/2017

Harassment Restraining Order Questions


Hello,

Please consider adding my post to your blog,  I'm hoping to get answers, 

I'm in the midst of a restraining order hearing- I am the respondent,

The Petitioner is filing a case against me not for threats, but instead for sending emails to get my property back-
The petitioner blocked my email address, phone number and dropped me from social media.

I wrote several emails, nothing in them was threatening or made any type of accusations, or were disrespectful in any way, actually they were very nice, asking to meet up to get my property back.  The Petitioner has claimed the emails were blocked and were deposited directly into a SPAM folder, now is opening the folder and claiming the peace of mind is interrupted, and its harassing to get the emails.

That is it-  nothing more- and I think the Judge is also wondering where the harassment is- but is anyone familiar with cases that were dismissed becasue the Petitioner claiming harassment because of emails they DID NOT get, but opened later on?

I look forward to any possible comments, how will I know if anyone responds to a blog post?