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11/30/2009

Hillsborough County Sheriffs Deputy and wife arrested for domestic violence

Hillsborough County Sheriffs Deputy and his wife arrested for domestic violence in Polk County


 MULBERRY, FL -- The Polk County Sheriff's Office has arrested a Hillsborough County Sheriffs Deputy and his wife for domestic violence.



Polk County Sheriffs Deputies responded to the Mulberry residence of Hillsborough County Sheriff's deputy, Craig D. Henson, and his wife, Joycelyn Henson on Tuesday morning after receiving a call about an alleged domestic violence incident.



The investigation showed that an altercation between Hillsborough County Sheriffs Deputy Henson and her ensued after Joycelyn Henson attempted to answer her husband's ringing cell phone. The caller hung up when she answered. Hillsborough County Sheriffs Deputy Henson told deputies that his wife became angry over the incident and threw something at him striking him in the face.



Joycelyn Henson said the object was a child's rubber ball. The Hillsborough County Sheriffs Deputy and her have been married for 13 years.
They have three children together.



Joycelyn Henson told deputies that she was frustrated and the ball accidently hit her husband when she threw several items down while looking for her keys to leave.



Joycelyn Henson also told Polk County Sheriff's Deputies that Hillsborough County Sheriffs Deputy Henson kicked her in the stomach. Hillsborough County Sheriffs Deputy Henson admitted that he "kicked at" his wife, for hitting him with the object, but wasn't sure if he hit her or not.



Both have been charged with Battery, Domestic Violence and are currently in the Polk County Jail. Both the wife and Hillsborough County Sheriffs Deputy Henson were expected to have a first appearance Wednesday in Polk County Court.

A Fathers Florida Restraining Order Pain

Here is what one Dad is going through due to a false restraining order being filed against him.
This is a letter to his little girl.
He has been forced to leave the state, or face being put in Jail, and the financial ruin that would entail.

I send this to you to illustrate what I've been forced to do now because of what has happened to me. I also want to illustrate how to maintain a relationship with your child ideally, even though your mind is gone due to the hell you as a father are experiencing:



Dear Hayley,



I'm on a trip right now, Hayley. Others want to put me in jail again- even though I've done nothing wrong. So I'm leaving today to move to another state. It's my hope to start my life over again where I move.



And I still miss you greatly, Hayley. I miss hugging you and talking to you. And I will see you when I can, I promise.



It is likely you are now as tall as me now, I bet. You are a very beautiful girl. You are as beautiful on the outside as you are on the inside, Hayley.



Please tell me about school sometime. I love when you write to me about school, and the friends you have as well. I'd also like you to write about how you are feeling these days.



I've been feeling OK, I guess. I'm still trying to figure out how to live my life without my family. This is very hard for me to do. I still do not understand at all why we are not together anymore. What is important to me now is that you know I love you very much.



I'm taking a bus where I am going right now, Hayley. This is my first time taking a bus for a long trip. This should be relaxing for me since I do not have to drive myself. I'll be going through 4 states throughout the night tonight.



I'm going to go see one I completely trust- one girl in particular. This girl is very good for my soul- she cares about me very much. I'm looking foward to seeing her, and spending time with her. She will also help me start my life over again with her. Yet I do not know if I will ever be really happy again. I can only hope I will be happy again.



More importantly, I hope you are happy. You have been through a lot lately, Hayley. Yet you are also very strong, so I'm sure you are just fine. I hope you are healthy, and you have a lot of great friends, and those who care very much about you.



It's rainy and cold outside right now, Hayley. I wish we were in our old living room reading and writing together quietly. I love it when you and I have done this together in the past.



Our bus has now stopped in mount vernon, IL at a mcDonalds place. I'm not hungry, but I did get some coffee here. It is still cloudy and rainy outside, but it's not too cold now.



There is a girl sitting behind me on the bus who is not much older than you. She is talking to her boyfriend on the phone ALL THE TIME. She is from Alabama, and is getting ready to move to Florida. Her accent is really weird. There is also another lady on the bus here with me who is snoring right now.



It is always best to treat other people as you want to be treated, Hayley. When another person treats you bad, it really hurts sometimes. When this happens to a person, that person may decide to treat others as they were treated. This is not the right thing to do to another person. Always strive to be better than many other people who are mean, Hayley. Our world needs more people like you.



I've decided I really like riding on this bus, Hayley. I like watching outside the window all the time as the bus moves. And I love writing you as I travel right now. It's kinda tough to write you if I'm actually driving, you know?



The bus driver is a very nice older lady that sings as she drives. She is a much better driver than your dad. Right now, we just stopped at a bus station in Evansville, Indiana. We'll be leaving here pretty soon. It's also very dark outside right now. It's very peaceful to me as the bus cruises down the highway when it is dark outside.



I find it very easy to write to you, Hayley. Ever since you were born, I've always talked to you, and made you laugh. So it is good that I can continue to talk to you as a pen pal now.



So I have saved the letters you wrote to me not long ago, Hayley. And I've shared them with the world. I'm very glad I'm pen pals with my daughter.



I really think this bus trip rocks. It is a very quiet bus, and many on this bus continue to sleep. Your dad does not sleep much these days. I continue to watch it rain as I write to you. And there are about 25 people on the bus with me right now. It will get more crowded as we pick up others to ride on this bus.



I've enjoyed writing to you, and I will again. You take care, and take it easy,



Dad

11/28/2009

Hillsborough county sheriff's office corporal accused of domestic violence

Hillsborough sheriff's corporal accused of domestic violence

This Hillsborough county sheriff's office deputy was recently arrested for domestic violence.
Lets not rush to judgement, he may be falsely accused of domestic violence.
Women LIE all the time about domestic violence allegations in Hillsborough County Florida.
This Hillsborough county sheriff's office deputy must be considered innocent until proven guilty of domestic violence.
Just because he was arrested for domestic violence in Hillsborough County, does not mean he did anything.
We will wait and see, as we follow this Hillsborough county sheriff's office domestic violence arrest.


TAMPA FLORIDA - A Hillsborough County sheriff's corporal was arrested Wednesday on a misdemeanor charge of domestic violence.



Cpl. Vivino Millan of the Hillsborough county sheriff's office  has been placed on paid administrative leave pending an internal investigation. He has no prior arrests, sheriff's spokesman J.D. Callaway said.



According to deputies, Hillsborough county sheriff's Deputy Vivino Millan and his girlfriend were riding together when he struck her lip with the back of his hand. Hillsborough county sheriff's Deputies called Millan after speaking with the woman at her home, and he was arrested in a parking lot in the Westchase area.



Millan, 43, has been with the Hillsborough county sheriff's department since December 1991 and works in the recruitment and screening section of the Hillsborough county sheriff's office

11/27/2009

stalking hillsborough county florida


stalking hillsborough county florida

The stalking laws in hillsborough county florida allow the hillsborough county states attorney to charge you with stalking after 2 violations of a hillsborough county florida restraining order!
After 3 or more violations of a restraining order, the hillsborough county states attorneys office can upgrade your charges to aggravated stalking.
Women are being coached to entice you into violating a restraining order enough times to put you away, for GOOD!
We here at restraining order blog understand you may still Love her, and want to save your relationship.
Don't do it, and allow her to trick you into a stalking charge!
In hillsborough county florida, under the current stalking laws, she can see you all she wants, w/o any legal problems.
But if you call, or contact her, or have someone else "attempt to talk some sense into her", you will be in BIG legal trouble in hillsborough county florida.

A hillsborough county florida stalking arrest will stay on your record for a long time.
A hillsborough county florida staking charge will make it very difficult for you to find a new relationship.
After all, what woman in hillsborough county florida wants to date a "stalker" ?
Even if you are not conviced of a hillsborough county florida stalking charge, the stalking arrest will remain on your record.

11/25/2009

Creating This Hillsborough County Restraining Order Blog


Being a victim of violating a fradulently obtained hillsborough county florida restraining order, I created this blog for several reasons.
#1 - I knew there were others just like me who needed to tell their restraining order story.
#2 - To clear my good name and prove that I am not a "stalker"
#3 - To provided support and encouragement to others who have had a restraining order slapped on them.

My 6 year dating relationship is over, she has "moved on", and so have I.
Unfortunately, in Hillsborough County Florida, the sheriffs office maintains a web site where your arrest record is on display for all to see.
This makes it difficult, if not impossible, to meet somene else.
All they see is that you were arrested and charged with Aggravated Stalking and Violating a Restraining Order in Hillsborough County.
They never see that your ex girlfriend tricked you by living at your home, borrowing 4900.00 from me,  making bank deposits for you, and calling you almost 100 times from her phone during the restraining order she had against you!
They never hear her saying "Chris, the restraining order is just a piece of paper, we can see each other, no one will know"
They never saw the TWO motions she filed to drop the restraining order, leading me to THINK I could trust her.
They never see the Hillsborough County Sheriffs Police Report with my ex admitting she allowed me to contact her, and that I even found her new apartment for her, and moved her into it!!
ALL this during a restraining order.
Nope, all the prospective new women I meet see is that I am a "stalker' and Iviolate restraining orders !
 My case is FAR too complicated to explain w/o documented evidence to back up my side of the story.
So, I created this restraining order blog, and tagged my story under "Chris's Story".
My purpose is not to "get back" at my ex girlfriend, only to clear my name by presenting true facts, as I understand them.
Here I am posting on a free legal advice forum, asking for legal advice.


My purpose in creating this restraining order blog is shown below.

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I made this blog restrainingorderblog dot com to tell my side of the story.

In Tampa, anyone can go to the police website and see anything you have been arrested for.

I am having trouble finding a new relationship, because I look like a violent criminal.

In fact, my ex girl tricked me into violating the restraining order, to try and put me away!

CAN I publish my side of the story on my Blog ?

Can I* use her whole name, or just her first name, or maybe refer to her as my ex girlfriend ?



She lied in court, under oath, and I have a cancelled check made out in her name to prove it, along with court transcripts!

Can I show these on my Blog ?



Any tips to avoid getting in troouble, yet still save my good name ?





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Truth is an absolute bar to liable and slander. You can use her name, though I would be careful doing so. I would not tell people where she was and I would be careful not to appear to be trying to get people to contact her on your behalf.



But as far as telling your side of the story, tell away; tell the truth.

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Truth is an absolute bar to liable and slander. You can use her name, though I would be careful doing so. I would not tell people where she was and I would be careful not to appear to be trying to get people to contact her on your behalf.



But as far as telling your side of the story, tell away; tell the truth.



I plan to use her name ONLY for what I can absolutely prove, like the check she wrote out, that I signed, and loaned to her during the restraining order.

I will show court transcripts of her courtroom testimony on my Blog.



Where I live, everybody knows everybody.

Everywhere I go, I get asked "Why did you stalk a woman, or violate an order for dating Violence ?



It is way too complicated and time consuming to explain to each and every person.



I just figured I would point them to the blog, and allow them to decide for themselves ?



I am not trying to ruin her name, just protect mine.



People need to know IMHO that IF she was so "scared" f me, what was she doing living/borrowing money/working for me, etc, etc, etc.

Several people SAW us constantly together during the restraining order.

The hillsborough county florida victims assistance advocate, and the states attorney BOTH knew all about it!

Yet, getting their conviction was more important then examining the facts of this case.



IMHO, the facts are "If she was so "scared" of me, why was she still with me, during all of this ?



Right now, in my town, I am a stalker, as far as many are concerned.



I hope to show on my blog, that she is a liar, and prove it with facts.

IOW, tell and SHOW the truth, backed up with facts!





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Were you convicted of something?



Yes, well, I was so overcharged, and bond was set at 200,000.00, that I was facing financial ruin sitting in jail.

I was charged with 12 violations of a restraining order basically, but in tampa, the third violation is upgraded to felony aggravated stalking!

So, I faced two felony aggravated stalkings, and 8 misdemeanors.

I was looking at 10 years in Prison, and NEVER harmed her in any way, except to call her, while she was calling me!



It is my opinion, something is wrong with a Law designed to "protect" a woman, that allows her to sleep, live, eat, work for me during a restraining order, but arrests me when ever she sees fit ?



That is exactly what happened to me!



Yes, my stupidity, I already know.



I am currently on 3 years misdemeanor probation, and the no contact order is still in place.





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Yah, this seems to happen all the time. The law is in favor of women in a lot of ways, sentencing, child custody cases, and as you are now aware, restraining orders/etc.





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Yah, this seems to happen all the time. The law is in favor of women in a lot of ways, sentencing, child custody cases, and as you are now aware, restraining orders/etc.



There is msomething wrong with a law that grants a woman a restraining order, based on her fear, yet when she demonstrates she is not scared of you by living with you, contacting you, etc, etc, you can still go to jail!





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I have always thought that restraining orders should be a two way street. If you don't want him around you, then you should not voluntarily be around him.



Exactly!

How can you swear under oath, you need protection, yet have a relationship while a restraining order in still in place ?

This is what the victims assistance advocates and man hater groups do to a woman.

I will admit to yellaing at her, a time or two, but never in a threatening manner.

And NEVER did i put my hands on her, or hurt her in any way physically.



I am convinced she was coached into deceiving me, so I would violate the restraining order enough times to be sent to Prison!



I THOUGHT that the States Attorney in Hillsborough County Florida would see through this crap, and not prosecute me.

How wrong I was !



This law must be changed!



I am all for protecting women.



But IMHO, a restraining order shouild be declared null and void the minute she contacted me, much less moved IN with me ?

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11/24/2009

Hillsborough County States Attorney





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When Mark Ober was elected Hillsborough County States Attorney I was pleased.
Being a "Brandon Boy" myself, I was happy that a  Brandon High School Graduate was going to be the Hillsborough County States Attorney!
I attended Brandon High in 1972, last year of the old school.
Mark Ober I am told is a Republican.
I am politically an even more Conservative Libertarian, but at least he is not a Liberal Democrat, LOL !!!
I also support Pam Bondi, who is running for election to be Florida Attorney General

Read this Hillsborough County Assistant States Attorney Pam Bondi Blog Post ?

Here I am with broom in hand with some volunteer members of my Singles Group

I won the Brandon Chamber Of Commerce Small Business Of The Year Award in 2002



I am also president and founder of the 1500 member Brandon Singles Group, and I do a lot of volunteer charity roof cleaning as well as charity exterior cleaning work in my community.



Many of my friends at the Chamber are Republicans, and were also happy Mark Ober won the election for Hillsborough County States Attorney.
Hillsborough County Sheriff David Gee is also a fellow "Brandon Boy".
Many of us at the Brandon Chamber felt good we had two fellow "Brandon Boys" in office!
People here in Eastern Hillsborough County Florida have always felt we "got the short end of the stick" when it came to Policing and Enforcing Laws
I believe that Hillsborough County Sheriff David Gee, and Hillsborough County States Attorney Mark Ober have, for the most part, done a great job for the Hillsborough County Florida Taxpayers.
And, I hope Mark Ober is re elected as Hillsborough County States Attorney.
And I hope David Gee is also re elected as Hillsborough County Sheriff.

I do feel I was maliciously and unfairly prosecuted by the Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office.
And grossly overcharged by the Hillsborough County Sheriffs Office.
Unfortunately, Hillsborough County States Attorney Mark Ober can not look into every single case.

I will present MY side of my case on this Blog.
It will be taggged under "Chris's Story" and let the people of Hillsborough County, Florida decide for themselves if the Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office engaged in a willful and malicious prosecution of me?
With no disrespect meant or intended to Mark Ober, or the entire Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office as a whole, I feel I was railroaded by the Assistant Hillsborough County States Attorney Valeria Pretto, and what I feel was her partner in crime Margaret Laing, of the Hillsborough County Victims Asistance Advocates Office.
In all fairness to the Victims Assistance Office of this county, please watch this video ?

Perhaps Margaret Laing was misled by my ex girlfriend, along with the HCSO, and Assistant States Attorney Valeria Pretto ?
My Lawyer will soon be presenting evidence of several counts of Perjury she committed under Oath.
No telling what other Lies, and/or omissions of facts she may possibly have told them about our past relationship ?
I also feel Hillsborough County Judge Manuel Lopez showed extreme hostility and bias against me, and maybe should have recused himself for predujicial statements he blurted out during the court proceedings.
I was also considering filing a judicial ethics complaint aginst Hillsborough County Judge Manuel Lopez, as well as a  complaint against Hillsborough County Assistant States Attorney Valeria Pretto.
Instead, I have decided to confront them with evidence of my ex girlfriends perjury, and SEE what they do ?

I don't know, but I will find out, what agency to file a complaint with against Hillsborough County Victims Assistance Advocate Margaret Laing.
I will SHOW, by certified court recorded transcripts, that what I say is true!
Hillsborough County Assistant States Attorney Valeria Pretto KNEW, and she admitted in court, that my ex girlfriend was in constant contact by living/working  or and  with me during a restraining order!


WHY Judge Lopez did not take this established fact into consideration is a good question ?
As an officer of the court, it is my opinion Assistant Hillsborough County States Attorney Valeria Pretto should have went to the judge who originally issued the restraining order to "protect" my ex girlfriend.
HOW can someone claim to be "in fear" when she was in constant contact with me for almost the entire restraining order ?
Take a look at this HCSO police report ?
My ex girlfriend admits to allowing me to contact her, looked at my new car, even used me to move her into her new apartment, and pay for the movers, before she used the restraining order to "get rid of me" !
She states on the Police Report she woke up, and found several phone calls from me on her cell phone.
If she was "so scared", why did she not report the phone calls right then and there, and why was I calling her, if indeed there was not a wanted by her relationship going on, despite the restraining order ?


Instead, it is my belief and opinion that Hillsborough County Assistant State Attorney Valeria Pretto persued her conviction, with total disregard to justice being served, and doing what was right.

Taxpayers of Hillsborough County, Florida, you judge for yourself ??

I must say that I have the highest amount of respect for Assistant States Attorney Valeria Pretto, as an Lawyer
She represented the States position in an effective and professional, if not morally correct manner.



It is going to be "interesting" to see what Assistant States Attorney Valeria Pretto will do when she is confronted with evidence my ex girlfriend perjured herself in court ?

Let's SEE if the Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office practices the "Zero Tolerance" they Preach by prosecuting this willful and blatant Perjury ?




With all due respect, dont preach a Sermon to the Taxpayers of Hillsborough County about "Zero Tolerance", SHOW us a Sermon by prosecuting these blatant and multiple counts of Felony Perjury ??

My ex girlfriend was asked point blank at a bond hearing by my attorney Ellis Faught "did you receive any check from Chris" ??
She answered "No", despite the fact she wrote out, and cashed the check, and received the money!
I have the court transcripts, and the cancelled/cashed check, with her fingerprint on it!


I want Perjury charges brought against her, as well as filing false police reports to obtain the fradulent restraining order from Judge Vogel in the first place.
It is my position that my ex girlfriend did not tell the truth in court, and I believe I can prove it.
Here MORE  Proof she committed Felony Perjury during my recent Bond Hearing.
She was asked by My attorney Ellis Faught "Do you cut you forearms or wrists with a Razor Blade" ?
She answered "I do not do that".
Well guess what, she certainly does, and here is a previous court case where she admitted it!

Notice how she TRIES to Lie here too, but Judge Raul Palomino and I would have no part of it!
Hillsborough County Assistant States Attorney Valeria Pretto, your little "Pseudo Victim" lied through her teeth, to KEEP me in Jail!
What are you going to do Valeria, ignore this evidence to "save" your conviction ?
I TRIED to talk to you after court ended Valeria, when I was handcuffed and shackled,  after my attorney left the courtrooom, and WHAT did you do ?
You called the Bailiff, instead of Listening to me, that is what you did !
Perhaps you should have Miranded me, and LISTENED ????



I have "moved on" as far as my ex girlfriend goes.
I have met someone else, and have no idea what my ex girlfriend is, or is not doing.



I wish her well in her pursuit of happiness, after she gets out of Jail for multiple counts of Felony Perjury, filing false police reports, and grand larceny by conversion.
I HOPE if this case comes to the point that she is questioned by the agencys responsible for regulating public officials, she will "come clean" and tell the TRUTH.
She told myself, and countless others who will testify, that both the Hillsborough County Assisatant States Attorney Valeria Pretto and Margaret Laing told her she would be charged with Contempt and or Obstruction Of Justice if she attempted to drop the charges, or help me in any way!

JUST  my ex  implying  she did not want me prosecuted, combined with evidence my attorney TRIED to present in court that she was privvy to, should have told her that the restraining order was granted under questionable circumstances.
In fact, Judge Manuel Lopez even blurted out in Court "This Woman is Mentally Ill" !!
My ex girlfriend chose to LIE in court about me "forcing her" to  file two motions to drop the restraining order because she was in fear the Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office would Prosecute HER.
She even lied in court about almost 5.000.00 I loaned  her DURING the restraining order.
A stupid thing to do when I have the cancelled check she cashed, that she made out in her own Handwriting.
I guess she "was scared" then too ? LOL
Judge Lopez again showed bias against me when he asked what the loan of 5.000.00 during a restraining order had to do with me being released on Bond.
Duh, get real Your Honor.
YOU were a criminal defense attorney before Jeb Bush appointed you to be a Judge.
We were ATTEMPTING to question HOW my ex girlfriend could be in "fear" of me, yet come and stay at  my house to borrow 5.000.00, DUH ???
This is MY experience with Valeria Pretto of the  Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office.
It is not meant as a condemnation of the entire Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office as a whole.
Crime is way down in Hillsborough County, Florida.
And IF I could vote, I would vote for Hillsborough County States Attorney Mark Ober without hesitation.
And for Sheriff David Gee.
Not because they are fellow Brandon Boys, but because I believe they have served the citizens of Hillsborough County Florida very well!
I intend to make Hillsborough County States Attorney Mark Ober aware of what was done in my case by his Assistant Hillsborough County States Attorney Valeria Pretto, and Margaret Laing.
Though I have never met Hillsborough County States Attorney Mark Ober, I have heard from my friends at the Brandon Chamber Of Commerece he is a VERY fair, and ethical man.
It would really be nice to go see him, and present the FACTS in my case about the get the conviction at any cost conduct of Valeria Pretto, his Assistant Hillsborough County States Attorney.

I have contacted several reporters from the Tampa Bay area news media with my story.
I am Ham Radio Operator KA7NIQ, so I know several fellow Hams who work for TV and Radio Stations who will help a fellow Ham out, if they are shown  he was treated unfairly by public officials.
I think that Mark Ober, the Hillsborough County Florida States Attorney elected by the people, should be made aware of all the things going on in the Hillsborough County States Attorney Office ?
I  do plan to give Valeria Pretto the opportunity to examine the court transcripts and cashed/cancelled check with my ex girlfriends fingerprint on it, to see the blatant Perjury she committed.
She will see the certified court transcripts from this motion for a permanent restraining order case that was dismissed for lack of evidence!

In THIS case, Judge Raul Palimino Jr allowed me the chance to prove to the court she cuts her arm up with razor blades when under emotional stress.
She tried to Lie then too, but the Judge made her show the court the razor blade scars on her arms!

Something she LIED about in court at my recent bond hearing, when questioned by Ellis Faught Jr, my criminal defense attorney.
As a defendant in a "he said, she said" violation of a restraining order case, I have the right to question any and all witnesses against me Valeria Pretto, though you objected to this line of questioning.

Lets SEE what Ms. Valeria Pretto of the Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office does when she is presented with proof of Perjury ??
I think I will also send the evidence of the blatant Perjury to Judge Manuel Lopez.
I simply could not believe his remarks when Ellis Faught, my criminal defense attorney, was attempting to Show my ex girlfriend was NOT really "in fear" of me.
Judge Manuel Lopez blurted out "What does that (borrowing 5,000.00 from me during a restraining order she had against me)  have to do with anything  ??
Judge Lopez, with all due respect, people that are TRULY "in fear" of people stay FAR away from them! They do not make bank deposits, call them 84 times, work and live with them, go to concerts with them, and borrow money with checks they make out themselves !!
I HAD way more evidence to present that my ex girlfriend was NOT "in fear" of me at alll!
In fact, I TOOK her to Kinney, Fernandez, and Boire, During the restraining order to start legal proceedings in an accident she was involved in!
I intended to call Manny Fernandez as a witness we were together at his office during the restraining order, when this went to trial.
My ex girlfriend was badly burned as a child.
I took it upon myself to find a permanent make up teacher to give her the latest state of the art permanent makeup eyebrows and eyeliner, out of Love, for FREE.
All the above during the restraining order.
I had several witnesses ready to testify, but Judge Manuel Lopez had his mind made up, and denied me Bond.
Stay tuned all readers of Restaraining Order Blog, and I will update what happens when I present Perjury Evidence to Assistant States Attorney Valeria Pretto, and Judge Manuel Lopez.
Let's give the Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office the chance to make it right ?
(Update 12-11-09 - I just returned from my Lawyers Office. He is preparing the Perjury evidence to present to the Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office.
I need to obtain the Hillsborough County Circuit Court Transcripts of me and my ex girlfriends Restraining Order Hearing before Judge Raul Palomino.
Hillsborough County Judge Raul Palimino denied my ex girlfriends previous attempt to obtain a permanent restraining order against me. Judge Palimino was very fair, and allowed me the chance to question my ex girlfriend extensively in court, as well as prove to the courts satisfaction she cuts her self up with razor blades. I asked her to show the razor blade scars in Court, and Judge Palimino made her do it.
That case was then dismissed.
At my recent bond hearing in front of Judge Lopez, my attorney asked my ex girlfriend under oath if she cuts her arms with razor blades, and she answered "I do not do that".
The Hillsborough County State Attorneys Office Valeria Pretto objected to this question.
It is my opinion that Valeria Pretto of the Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office cared only about her conviction.
I intend to prove by the previous court transcripts that the Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office witness, my ex girlfriend, Perjured herself, again.
This is two clear cut instances of willful and blatant Perjury that kept me in Jail, forcing me to plead guilty to avoid financial ruin!

Let's SEE if the Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office practices the "Zero Tolerance" they Preach by prosecuting this willful and blatant Perjury ?
With all due respect, dont preach a Sermon to the Taxpayers of Hillsborough County about "Zero Tolerance", SHOW us a Sermon by prosecuting these blatant and multiple counts of Felony Perjury ??

Here is an excerpt in quotes below from a Hillsborough County Florida News Article Quoting  Hillsborough County State Attorney Mark Ober

""""In January, 2003, Holton became the 24th person released from Florida's death row when the Florida Supreme Court threw out his conviction. Hillsborough County Florida Prosecutors could not retry Holton because two witnesses had recanted, new DNA tests had helped clear him, and evidence withheld by police had surfaced. Hillsborough County State Attorney Mark Ober says the law doesn't require him to prove when the two men lied.

Did they lie in 1986, when their testimony put Holton on death row? Or in 2001, when their recantations helped set free him? It doesn't matter, he said.

"They swore to tell the truth, and they violated that oath, and a horrible tragedy occurred as a result of that oath," Hillsborough County State Attorney Mark Ober said. "Either an innocent man has spent the past 16 years on death row for a crime he did not commit, or a guilty man was set free, and that is inexcusable.""""

Well, I was kept in Jail w/o bond, and forced to plead guilty to avoid total financial ruin by an ex girlfriend who Perjured herself at least twice under Oath!
Lets see what the Hillsborough County State Attorneys Office is going to do about that ?

As soon as I have the second set of court transcripts, and evidence proving this blatant and malicious Perjury all together, they will be presented by my Lawyer to the Hillsborough County States Attorneys Office.)
Taxpayers, and concerned citizens of this County, stay tuned to this blog for updates on what the Hillsborough County State Attorneys Office does about this Perjury.

11/19/2009

hillsborough county victims advocate

hillsborough county victims advocate
I see the hillsborough county victims advocate as a waste of taxpayer dollars.
In my court case, my ex girlfriend wanted to drop the charges, and was also living with me.
She told me she was "scared to death" of the hillsborough county victims advocate.
She told me the hillsborough county victims advocate told her she could be prosecuted for obstruction of justice, and possible Perjury if she did not proceed with the prosecution!
Perhaps she was even "coached" to say this by the hillsborough county victims advocate, so I would be upset with the hillsborough county victims advocate, and not her ?

When my ex girlfriend was staying at my home during a restraining order, she often talked to the hillsborough county victims advocate on the phone when I was present.
I clearly heard the hillsborough county victims advocate tell her to get any and all things belonging to her out of my home.
The hillsborough county victims advocate said "You are weakening our case" to my ex girlfriend.
In my case, the hillsborough county victims advocate "did her job".
In my opinion, the "Job" of the hillsborough county victims advocate is to secure a conviction for the hillsborough county states attorney, at any cost!

The hillsborough county victims advocate assigned to my case was well aware my ex girlfriend and I were still seeing each other!
IMHO, this alone should have cast serious doubt about her allegations of "being scared of me".




































It is also my opinion that both  the hillsborough county victims advocate, and the states attorney, being sworn officers of the court, had a duty to inform the original judge who issued the restraining order that my ex girlfriend was having daily contact with me!

My ex girlfriend admits in this HCSO Police report I found her the new apartment she just moved into!
IS this a "woman in fear", or a woman simply using the criminal justice to get her own way?

Did the hillsborough county victims advocate do this ?
Not on your life, she did what she was paid to do, secure a criminal conviction for the states attorney, w/o regard to doing what was right.
This is my recent experience with one hillsborough county victims advocate.

11/17/2009

hillsborough county florida restraining order


hillsborough county florida restraining order

It puzzles me why a Tampa area resident served with a hillsborough county restraining order will be put in the hillsborough county jail for violating a  restraining order, yet his ex can contact him all she wants ?
To get a hillsborough county florida restraining order, a woman must claim fear, and say she is  in danger.
I submit that if she is contacting a person who has a hillsborough county restraining order she got against them, she Lied about being scared and in fear !


Citizens and Taxpayers of hillsborough county florida , read the above HCSO Police Report, and be amazed and bewildered.
Just LOOK at what our hillsborough county criminal justice system is doing ?
Is it not obvious to any Taxpayer or concerned citizen of hillsborough county florida, that my ex girlfriend tricked and used me to  move her, and pick out her new apartment ?
And, after she used me, she enlisted the aid of the hillsborough county sheriffs office to get rid of me.
The hillsborough county state attorney's office and the victims assistance advocate assisted my ex girlfriend in her sinister plan!
WTF is wrong with our hillsborough county criminal justice system, don't they READ HCSO Police Reports in violation of a restraining order cases ?
Or, do they just turn a blind eye, and pursue a restraining order violation conviction, no matter what, because hillsborough  is a "Zero Tolerance" County?
Well Taxpayers and concerned citizens, I intend to put the hillsborough county state attorney's office to a "Zero Tolerance" test!
I have all the evidence of blatant and willful Perjury by my ex girlfriend finally all together.
It took me awhile, waiting on several certified hillsborough county circuit court transcripts, to prove that Perjury in Court was committed by my ex girlfriend against me.
My Attorney and I will be asking the hillsborough county florida state attorney's office for Felony Prosecution of my ex girlfriend for HER crimes.
We shall see indeed if hillsborough county florida  is really a "Zero Tolerance" county ?
I will report the course of action the hillsborough county florida state attorney chooses to take in this case, one way or the other to the Taxpayers of this county.
If the hillsborough county assistant states attorney can prosecute me on my ex girlfriends whim, after I freaking moved her into an apartment during a hillsborough county florida  restraining order, and she admits to allowing me to contact her, why can they not prosecute HER  for Perjury I can easily prove ?
Stay tuned to restraining order blog Taxpayers, if you are curious about what the states attorney of hillsborough county will do with evidence of her multiple counts of Perjury in an official proceeding, under their "Zero Tolerance" Policy!



Is any Taxpayer curious why the hillsborough county sheriffs department will arrest people for a violation of a hillsborough county florida restraining order, when they have evidence the ex is having repeated contact with the restrained ?
Kind of shoots the "Claim Of Fear" she used to get the order in the first place out the window, Duh ?
And, why does the hillsborough county state attorneys office prosecute cases where contact by the person who obtained the hillsborough county florida restraining order is evidenced ?
A hillsborough county florida restraining order should be declared null and void if wanted contact is known to be happening between the parties.
How can a person claim to be in fear, go and get a  restraining order in hillsborough county, then demonstrate otherwise by being in contact with the person she has the hillsborough county florida restraining order against  ?

Hillsborough County Restraining Order Blog is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Some posters are court ordered to have no contact of any kind with the person having a Restraining Order in Hillsborough County Florida against them. Meaning no third party contact as well. If you by chance know a person one of our posters/authors is discussing to share their Florida Restraining Order experiences with others, we ask you to respect our rights to free speech, under the United States of America Constitution. Hillsborough County Florida Restraining Order Blog is not meant to harass, directly or indirectly contact, harm, imtimidate, bring any emotional distress, stalk or cyberstalk, nor intentionally slander or damage any individual in any way.  It is not intended to initiate any third party contact on behalf of any poster or author, or violate a current restraining order in any way. If you feel there is anything on our Hillsborough County  Restraining Order Blog that is slanderous, untrue, or illegal, please bring it to our attention ASAP. We will examine your request promptly, and any post you find offensive will be reviewed for removal in a timely mannner. If you have a restraining order story to share, email me at ka7niq@yahoo.com, and I will add you as an author on this Hillsborough County Florida Restraining Order Blog.

Restraining Order Attorney Brandon Florida

Brandon Florida Restraining Order Violation Attorney

 Brandon Florida Criminal Defense Attorney Ellis Faught (813) 681 4246  represented me in my restraining order violation case.
Ellis did an excellent job, considering the Hillsborough County States Attorney threw the book at me.
Restraining Order Blog does not endorse any one criminal defense attorney.
If you are charged with violation a restraining order in Brandon Florida , get a good lawyer as soon as possible.
If you are smart, the minute you are served with a temporary restraining order, get a good criminal defense attorney to represent you at the FIRST hearing, before the injunction is made permanent.
Please be aware, that your ex can play a lot of "fun and games" to get you locked up, once she has an injunction against you!
Fight It with a good Brandon Florida  criminal defense attorney.
Do not make the big mistake I did, and represent yourself, at the first hearing of the temporary injunction !


Brandon Florida Violation of a Restraining Order Defense Lawyer

Have you been served a restraining order in Brandon Florida ?
A good Brandon Florida criminal defense lawyer can help you get your life back in order.

A restraining order is a legal order that is issued by a court of law that forbids the subject of the restraining order from making contact with the person who filed for the order. Contact includes speaking with the person, being within a set proximity of the person, calling the person, emailing the person, or even writing to the person. These are often issued in cases of domestic violence. Once a restraining order has been filed, the subject of the order must cease all forms of contact. If the person does not stop contacting the filer of the order, the person can be charged with violation of a restraining order.
Under the new Florida Domestic Violence Laws, with 3 or more violations of a restraining order, you can be charged with Felony Aggravated Stalking !
When I was in the Hillsborough County Orient Road and Falkenburg Jail in Tampa, I saw plenty of people doing 6 months to one year in Jail for violating a restraining order.
Most of these unfortunate people did not have a private criminal defense attorney.
The Public Defenders Office in Hillsborough County, Florida is overworked.
It is my experience you really need a private criminal defense lawyer to keep you out of Jail.

Once a person is charged with violation of a restraining order in Brandon Florida , he/she may have to spend time in jail or pay large fines. Additionally, the order may be extended to prohibit any additional contact in the future. By violating Brandon Florida  restraining orders, people place themselves in an uncertain predicament which can result in harsh legal consequences. By consulting a Brandon Florida  defense attorney immediately upon any accusation, arrest or charge involving a restraining order violation, a person an avoid the harsh penalties that are associated with this offense.

A Brandon Florida  restraining order defense attorney may also be able to help you have a restraining order lifted. When a restraining order is sought for frivolous or untrue reasons, it is important that justice be served. A Brandon Florida  criminal lawyer like Ellis Faught may be able to help by proving that the restraining order was served based upon false accusations or information.


A  Brandon Florida Restraining Order Defense Attorney Can Help get you justice!

When a person has been charged with or arrested for violating a restraining order in Brandon Florida , it is imperative that the person consult with a skilled Brandon Florida  criminal defense attorney. A good defense lawyer can get involved from the onset of the legal process and provide valuable insight and direction. Additionally, an experienced and aggressive criminal defense attorney can negotiate with judges and prosecutors to possibly have Brandon Florida  restraining order violation charges reduced, or in some cases, dismissed entirely.

Brandon Florida  Restraining Order Defense Attorney Ellis Faught Jr 813 - 681 - 4246

If you have been charged with violating a restraining order in Brandon Florida , and you would like to speak with an experienced and qualified Brandon Florida criminal defense attorney, call Ellis Faught at 813 - 681 - 4246 or contact a Brandon FL Restraining Order Attorney by Email at erfjrpa@earthlink.net

Seal and Expunge Attorney in Tampa, Hillsborough County, FL


Seal or Expunge a Criminal Record in Tampa Florida

Some people in Tampa suffer the consequences of having a criminal record in Hillsborough County, Florida, even through they are legally eligible to have their criminal record sealed or expunged by our Attorneys.



If you are interested in finding out more about having our Attorneys assist in sealing or expunging a criminal record in Tampa Florida, contact the Sammis Law Firm in Tampa at 813-250-0500.

Expunge Criminal Record Tampa Florida:



If the charges in your Hillsborough County Florida criminal case were dropped by the prosecutor or dismissed by the court then you may be eligible to expunge your criminal arrest record.





Seal Criminal Record Hillsborough County Florida:



If you were sentenced by the Judge to probation with a "withhold of adjudication" then you may be eligible to seal your criminal record assuming it is not on the list of ineligible offenses at the end of this page.



Contact a lawyer to find out more about how you can seal or expunge a criminal record in Hillsborough County, Pinellas County, Polk County, Pasco County, Manatee County, Hernando County, Orange County and Sarasota County, Florida. Find out more about the benefits of hiring a local experienced attorney to seal or expunge your county criminal record, including your arrest report, police report, mug shot, booking photo, and other embarrassing details about your arrest and criminal
 prosecution.



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Tampa, FL 33602

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.*If you were put on probation and received a withhold of adjudication for one of the following offenses, you would not be eligible to seal or expunge your criminal record in Florida:

•Domestic violence, including misdemeanor domestic assault or misdemeanor domestic battery;

•§794 - Sexual Battery

•§825.1025 - Lewd or Lascivious act committed on or in presence of elderly or disabled person

•§796.03 - Procuring person under age 18 for prostitution

•§393.135 or §394.4593 - Sexual misconduct with a mentally ill person or developmentally disabled person

•§916.1075 - Sexual misconduct with mentally deficient of mentally ill

•§847.0133 - Delivery of obscene material to a minor

•§839 - Offenses by Public Officials or Employees

•§810.14 - Voyeurism

•§827.071 - Sexual Performance by a child

•§787.025 - Luring or Enticing a Child

•§817.034 - Scheme to Defraud

•§847.0135 - Computer Pornography

•§893.135 - Trafficking in a controlled substance

•§800.04 - Lewd or Lascivious act committed on or in presence of child under 16

•§847.0145 - Selling or Buying of minors for purposes of pornography

•§907.041 - [Listed Offenses]

•abuse of an elderly or disabled adult (aggravated);

•aggravated assault or battery

•sexual battery

•stalking or aggravated;

•stalking;

•aircraft piracy;

•manslaughter;

•manufacturing a controlled substance;

•child abuse or aggravated child abuse;

•homicide;

•lewd, lascivious assault in the presence of a child under 16 years;

•kidnapping

•sexual activity with a minor

•act of terrorism;

•illegal use of explosives;

•carjacking;

•robbery;

•home invasion robbery;

•burglary of a dwelling;

•conspiring or attempting to commit any above mentioned crimes in Florida.

Restraining Order Blog does not endorse or suggest Criminal Defense Attorneys in Hillsborough County, Pinellas County, Polk County, Pasco County, Manatee County, Hernando County, Orange County and Sarasota County, Florida.
This information is provided by us for our readers who may want to contact a Tampa Criminal Defense Attorney practicing seal and expunge court and arrest records law.

aggravated stalking tampa florida



aggravated stalking tampa florida

The  laws on aggravated stalking in tampa florida allow the Hillsborough County States Attorney to upgrade 3 or more misdemeanor violation of a restraining order charges to felony aggravated stalking.
The criminal charge of aggravated stalking in tampa florida is a 3rd degree felony.
Be Warned that a felony aggravated stalking tampa florida charge is serious business!
Because the charge of aggravated stalking in tampa florida happened with a restraining order in place, it is a level 7 Felony that can land you in Prison for 22 to 36 months!
And, once you are even charged and arrested for felony aggravated stalking in tampa florida, your arrest record will be on the HCSO Website for all to see.
When you meet someone new, she will most likely check you out on the computer.
When she sees the  aggravated stalking tampa florida felony charge made against you,  it will be all over. Even if the charge of felony aggravated stalking in tampa florida is dropped, it will still show up on your arrest record for 15 years!
If you have a restraining order against you , learn from MY mistakes!
Do not, repeat do not under any circumstances violate a restraining order in Tampa Florida, for any reason!
Women In Tampa are coached by the Men Haters and other co dependants to trick you into violating a restraining order.
No matter HOW she begs and pleads for you to see or contact her with a restraining order in place, do not do it.
This is what my ex girlfriend did to me, and I wound up in the Hillsborough County Jail on Orient Rd in Tampa
All it takes is a few phone calls with a restraining order in place against you to get a charge of aggravated stalking in tampa florida.

Emotionally Abusive Women




Are you sick and tired of hearing how us Men are so "emotionally abusive" ?
Some Women are very controlling creatures, and will sometimes even use the Police to inflict punishment on you.
The well meaning Hillsborough County Deputys in my case had no idea they were being manipulated by my ex girlfriend.
She is a great actress, a real 'Drama Queen".
She has had a lot of practice in life making people feel sorry for her.
I found this, and wanted to post it.
Sound familiar anyone ?

“An emotional abuser sees herself as a blameless victim, and denies her own provocative behavior, even going so far as to bemoan the fact that a partner left her, or threw her out, “after all the things I did for him”… The emotional abuser will play up the “pathos” in an attempt to garner sympathy, all the while, continuing to stalk her ex, making jokes about things she could do to upset him, and invading his personal space and boundaries at social functions.

Like physical abusers, emotional abusers will often stalk their former partners. The stalker’s objective is often to control him through cultivating fear rather than making direct or specific threats, or confronting him. Sometimes this stalking can take the form of simply moving into the same neighborhood as a former partner, and letting him know, through friends, where she is living. Her move into his neighborhood will be “justified” by her for some specious reason, but the reality is, she can’t let go and is still trying to control him and inflict pain on him after the relationship is over. This is a subtle form of terrorism, because abuse victims are often very emotionally (if not physically) afraid of their abusers once they wake up. He will know that she might run into him at the local convenience store, gas station, supermarket, or on a walk. She is, in effect, pissing on his boundaries (something abusers have no respect for) and trying to make them her own. She may even begin dating someone who lives very close to him, so that she has an excuse to go by his house, or park her car nearby.

Ex-partners of abusers will often express fear of their abuser, and will have no desire to be anywhere near the abuser. On the other hand, the abuser may try to appear as if she is calm, rational, and still supportive of her ex-partner, despite the fact that she will also express the opinion that She believes he is quite unstable. She will make statements such as saying that she “bears him no ill-will”, etc., but then will show no respect for his boundaries or his requests for her to stay away from him. The abuser will still inquire with friends as to how he is doing, implying that her inquiry is because she cares about him – She does care – about retaining those last vestiges of control, even after the breakup. What she really wants to know is if he is suffering or doing badly, because that feeds her sick ego. She feels best when She puts other people in as much pain as she is in.”

11/15/2009

Dan's Restraining Order Hell Story

I was asked to post this to Restraining Order Blog By Dan.
This is Dan's Restraining Order Hell Story from his Blog.
Thank You Dan !
I am sure many of our Blog readers can relate to the hell these well meaning, but unfair Domestic Violence Laws can cause to our Families, and to us!



"As many know, my wife of 20 years filed false claims against me of violent abuse against her one unforgetable day in August of this year.

Molly, my wife, did this in order to acquire a tactical advantage in a divorice she clearly wants that I was completely unaware of until she filed a retraining order against me that prevents me from having any contact whatsovever with my daughter as well, whose name is Hayley.

My wife told her free army of legal professionals that she suspects that child abuse was occuring by me against Hayley. This particular claim is far more absurd than the abuse claims Molly made about me, which included a claim by Molly that I tried to kill her one night.

So of course, I ended up in jail in the first time of my 43 years soon after these false allegations were made against me by Molly. The second night I was in jail, I decided to write Hayley a letter.

Now, writing Hayley fractures the restraining order falsely issued against me, since this is contacting Hayley in this manner. But since I was already in jail, I really was not concerned about breaking this abusive enforcement of psychotic laws now against me.

As I wrote her that night, I was not the fun dad I usually am with Hayley due to my state of mind. However, I never wrote anything to Hayley indicating hatred or anger towards her mother, Molly. Nor did I, in my words to Hayley, debate her mother's false accusations against me.

My undergrad is in child psychology, and I learned with my education that it is never a good idea to attack a parent in any way during a split of the parents, which is what is occuring with our family right now. So I wrote to Hayley that I will always love her mother because her mother gave Hayley to me almost 12 years ago. This is the woman who put me in jail.

I also wrote to Hayley that the destruction happening to our family right now is difficult to understand for both of us, but we should try and grasp this situation together in time. I told Hayley with my writing to her that I loved and missed her, and that I hoped she would write me back soon.

I mailed this letter to her grandparent's house. These are Molly's parents, and are very wonderful people who have been married for more than 60 years. They understand the importance of a father in a child's life.

I only mailed this letter to Hayley after trading my breakfast the next day in order to get a stamped envelope from another inmate.

Hayley wrote me back soon afterwards, and I was thrilled beyond belief. Yet her letter understandably was cautious. She shared a bit with me about school and her friends. What really got me was the end of her letter to me:

P.S. Daddy- everything is going to be OK, no matter what....

I cried when I read this from her. She understands more than I fully realize about my own frame of mind, and what is happening to our family right now. I shed tears as I recall this that she wrote. She wrecked her father, and this is not the first time.

So my next letter to Hayley was much more jovial than my initial letter to her:

Dear Hayley....Hey, guess what? We are pen pals now.....YAAAAYYYYYY!!!!!

Then I went on to tell her how cool she is. I discussed what she wanted to be for halloween. I effortlessly made her laugh what I wrote to her in this letter. The words I shared with Hayley came from my heart.

Her next letter to me was much more upbeat. She was thrilled that we were pen pals now. She expressed clearly how happy she was that she was getting mail from her daddy now. This made me comforted greatly. I was at peace with her emotional and mental state now.

The next letter composed by me to Hayley was apparently as enjoyable to her as she read this. The letter included beautiful drawings from Tommy, my cell mate in jail. This letter also included acts that Hayley and I frequently do to each other when we are together:

High five, girlfriend!
Big hug from dad!
Forehead kiss!

Hayley put the drawings by Tommy that I mailed to her on her school locker walls, she told me in her writing to me afterwards.

Tommy, my cell mate artist during that time, is a 22 year old homeless guy who was in jail for assault on another adult. He had been homeless for much of his life. And Tommy did have anger issues. It took me about 2 weeks to gain his trust. Once this happened, I discussed with Tommy more benign outlets for his anger urges, and the importance of thinking before acting. Tommy also has done illegal drugs, so we discussed the impact of such drugs on his health and behavior.

I'm in jail with Tommy due to accusations that I'm a violent person- accusations against my wife from my wife. Yet I'm doing anger management with guys like Tommy.

Irony and surrealism were banging on my cell door with this reality at the time.

My family is destroyed. My family is gone. I have to learn to live with this. Yet this dialogue with Hayley is a very positive element to what is happening to our family. I was able to achieve and create joy simply by establishing a pen pal relationship with Hayley.

It has been said that great humor has an apex of great pain. I understand this more clearly now.

As I was released from jail, I was told never to write my daughter again. This violates the restraining order, the judge told me. I'm still in shock by this order to me by the judge via my wife's free prosecutor. I create joy in the middle of great pain, and I'm told to discontinue creating such joy.

This is unacceptable, this order against me with such acts. I'm being punished for loving my daughter. I'm being punished for assuring the well being of Hayley mentally and emotionally.

These are the laws that exist in our country, and they must be discontinued.

Thank you for reading this.
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Saturday, October 31, 2009
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As many know, my wife of 20 years filed false claims against me of violent abuse against her one unforgetable day in August of this year.

Molly, my wife, did this in order to acquire a tactical advantage in a divorice she clearly wants that I was completely unaware of until she filed a retraining order against me that prevents me from having any contact whatsovever with my daughter as well, whose name is Hayley.

My wife told her free army of legal professionals that she suspects that child abuse was occuring by me against Hayley. This particular claim is far more absurd than the abuse claims Molly made about me, which included a claim by Molly that I tried to kill her one night.

So of course, I ended up in jail in the first time of my 43 years soon after these false allegations were made against me by Molly. The second night I was in jail, I decided to write Hayley a letter.

Now, writing Hayley fractures the restraining order falsely issued against me, since this is contacting Hayley in this manner. But since I was already in jail, I really was not concerned about breaking this abusive enforcement of psychotic laws now against me.

As I wrote her that night, I was not the fun dad I usually am with Hayley due to my state of mind. However, I never wrote anything to Hayley indicating hatred or anger towards her mother, Molly. Nor did I, in my words to Hayley, debate her mother's false accusations against me.

My undergrad is in child psychology, and I learned with my education that it is never a good idea to attack a parent in any way during a split of the parents, which is what is occuring with our family right now. So I wrote to Hayley that I will always love her mother because her mother gave Hayley to me almost 12 years ago. This is the woman who put me in jail.

I also wrote to Hayley that the destruction happening to our family right now is difficult to understand for both of us, but we should try and grasp this situation together in time. I told Hayley with my writing to her that I loved and missed her, and that I hoped she would write me back soon.

I mailed this letter to her grandparent's house. These are Molly's parents, and are very wonderful people who have been married for more than 60 years. They understand the importance of a father in a child's life.

I only mailed this letter to Hayley after trading my breakfast the next day in order to get a stamped envelope from another inmate.

Hayley wrote me back soon afterwards, and I was thrilled beyond belief. Yet her letter understandably was cautious. She shared a bit with me about school and her friends. What really got me was the end of her letter to me:

P.S. Daddy- everything is going to be OK, no matter what....

I cried when I read this from her. She understands more than I fully realize about my own frame of mind, and what is happening to our family right now. I shed tears as I recall this that she wrote. She wrecked her father, and this is not the first time.

So my next letter to Hayley was much more jovial than my initial letter to her:

Dear Hayley....Hey, guess what? We are pen pals now.....YAAAAYYYYYY!!!!!

Then I went on to tell her how cool she is. I discussed what she wanted to be for halloween. I effortlessly made her laugh what I wrote to her in this letter. The words I shared with Hayley came from my heart.

Her next letter to me was much more upbeat. She was thrilled that we were pen pals now. She expressed clearly how happy she was that she was getting mail from her daddy now. This made me comforted greatly. I was at peace with her emotional and mental state now.

The next letter composed by me to Hayley was apparently as enjoyable to her as she read this. The letter included beautiful drawings from Tommy, my cell mate in jail. This letter also included acts that Hayley and I frequently do to each other when we are together:

High five, girlfriend!
Big hug from dad!
Forehead kiss!

Hayley put the drawings by Tommy that I mailed to her on her school locker walls, she told me in her writing to me afterwards.

Tommy, my cell mate artist during that time, is a 22 year old homeless guy who was in jail for assault on another adult. He had been homeless for much of his life. And Tommy did have anger issues. It took me about 2 weeks to gain his trust. Once this happened, I discussed with Tommy more benign outlets for his anger urges, and the importance of thinking before acting. Tommy also has done illegal drugs, so we discussed the impact of such drugs on his health and behavior.

I'm in jail with Tommy due to accusations that I'm a violent person- accusations against my wife from my wife. Yet I'm doing anger management with guys like Tommy.

Irony and surrealism were banging on my cell door with this reality at the time.

My family is destroyed. My family is gone. I have to learn to live with this. Yet this dialogue with Hayley is a very positive element to what is happening to our family. I was able to achieve and create joy simply by establishing a pen pal relationship with Hayley.

It has been said that great humor has an apex of great pain. I understand this more clearly now.

As I was released from jail, I was told never to write my daughter again. This violates the restraining order, the judge told me. I'm still in shock by this order to me by the judge via my wife's free prosecutor. I create joy in the middle of great pain, and I'm told to discontinue creating such joy.

This is unacceptable, this order against me with such acts. I'm being punished for loving my daughter. I'm being punished for assuring the well being of Hayley mentally and emotionally.

These are the laws that exist in our country, and they must be discontinued.

Thank you for reading this.
Posted by Quiact at 7:43 PM 0 comments Links to this post
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Fight
In the past two months, I've received false accusations that began with claims of violent spousal abuse by my former wife of 20 years. As a result, I have experienced criminal arrest, incarceration, conviction, and loss of freedom. I've also discovered that the color orange of the inmate attire is definitely not a good color for me.

I've been denied access to my 11 year old daughter entirely. The pain of this particular injury is indescribable.

I was rapidly removed from my own home. So I'm now homeless, unemployed, and am now living out of my one remaining asset out of what was thousands of dollars of assets. This would be my 500 dollar car. Fortunately, I learned some tips from those I met in jail who are homeless themselves. There are many of them.

My primary concern since this has occured with me is the safety and well-being of my daughter. In fact, men typically do not leave an abusive relationship themselves because they often fear for their child's safety- along with potentially losing their relationship with their children.

Gender biased stereotypes have ultimately placed me at the mercy of those in this pathetic family law system we have in this country who absolutely know nothing about me. They do not care to know me.

The following was retrieved from www.mediaradar.org, '50 Domestic Violence Myths':

Women are just as likely as men to engage in partner aggression, according to hundreds of studies. Partner violence, if it happens, is often mutual. Self defense accounts for only fifteen percent or so of partner aggression.

Less than five percent of domestic violence incidents involve couples in an intact marital relationship, such as mine was. Studies show marriage is clearly the safest partner relationship. In fact, most cases of family conflict do not involve physical violence at all. Mine never did.

I have a restraining order against me now. Over 2/3 of restraining orders issued are determined to be either unnecessary or false. Also, these orders do not prevent future violence from occuring. In fact, restraining orders may encourage violence. Also, if I attempt to reconcile any conflict with my former spouse, I will get arrested. If I send my daughter a birthday card, I will be in jail. I've not spoken with or seen my wife or daughter in over two months now. Yet I've been arrested often during this time.

There is overt gender bias in the family law system that exists today. For example, if a man kills his wife, he will get about 20 years in prison, as he should. However, if a woman kills her husband, she will get about 5 years in prison. The etiology for this gap reflects the gender bias that exists. Also, in divorice court, women are granted sole custody of their children about 65 percent higher rate than men. There is in fact a frightening fatherhood crisis in our country in particular. All modesty aside, as a dad, I completely rock out loud.

I'm a victim of domestic abuse myself. I suffered over a decade of brutal physical and emotional child abuse that you likely do not want to know the details behind this fact. However, the propaganda fed to our society by certain womens and victim advocacy groups must be stopped, and clarified by the facts.

Meanwhile, I suggest that others stay out of this system. Resolve your disputes through negotiation. Do not be compelled to share your dirty laundry with these anti-family law enforcers. Do not be forced to fight for your rights in such an unfortunate situation as mine in a courtroom. By that time, it is too late.

I'm presently losing this battle, but I continue to stand up after I've been slammed to the ground several times already. I'll stand up again.

Such family court and legal intervention is often used by others as a weapon or tactic that is freely available for them to utilize, and such people are likely mentally flawed, if not entirely absent of a soul.

I'm not angry or hateful about what is happening to me- this surreal nightmare that has manifested into a bizarre reality. I will not lower myself to be this way ever. And I will also never live in fear as a result of what is happening to me. If I do become fearful, I will lose this fight completely. And this is a fight I cannot lose. I love my daughter way too much.

So I likely will be in jail again. This is just a fact about my life now. That's OK, though. Because some battles need to be fought, and the results can lead to suffering.

So I fight.
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Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Hell
The following was composed by me at 3 a.m. this morning at a flea market where I await to be a vendor. Why? Because less than three weeks ago, my wife of 20 years, who I have known for 30 years, filed a restraining order against me for absolutely nothing. She claimed abuse and violence from me against her. I never have caused, or threatened, abuse or violence against my wife. I'm selling what few possessions I have in order to eat. I am unemployed, and sleeping in my car now:

I kid you not. The order is possible due to the Violence Against Women Act Of 1994. Clinton was looking for votes to get re-elected, so he got them from radical feminists who have the atonomy to punish those as myself based on the weakest evidence there is, which is hearsay. A woman can simply walk in to a law enforcement institution, and say that she is scared of her spouse, and he will get, and they will encourage, a restraining order.

Shock and devastation are very weak words to decribe fully how I feel presently. This nightmare continues- this surreal abyss.

The day after my wife prevented me from entering my home, or seeing my daughter with this restraining order, my wife vacated my home with most of its contents and moved in with her lesbian drug addict lover. Another unknown.

We have an 11 year old daughter I greatly love. I now cry nightly, and cry with great strength, due to what has been inflicted upon me with deliberate intent by one who is most intimate with me. I thought. I cry due to my longing and concern for my daughter.

Due to my state of mind at the time, I violated repeatedly the restraining order I was given that I did not, and do not, acknowledge, within days. I did this by attempting to email my wife, as well as care for my vacant home due to my restriction from both due to this absurd Act.

As a result, I was arrested, and put in the worst county jail in their psych unit. I had never been to jail or arrested in the past, so the feel of cold metal against my wrists and ankles, along with colder metal bars in front of me instead of most welcome sunshine, was most unpleasant. This lasted for an entire week.

Passion and salesmanship, along with tactical planning, reduced my sentence to a week from 60 days. A reminder- I committed no crime.

I considered writing this note soon after this awful life stressor, but considered myself days afterwards void of objectivity to annotate aseptically until this time.

Here is what one should consider when a psychopath atrophies you in such a way:

Finances-

Likely, you and your spouse are in a lot of financial debt if you get issued a restraining order. Your spouse gets a cheap divorice through the Violence Against Women Act, and the spouse assures custody of any children- along with other tactical advantages regarding the divorice your spouse likely will file against you.

Guess what? Likely, you will get issued a restraining order for weeks initially, that will manifest into an entire year due to this Act from hell. So likely, you become exonerated from any financial debt concerns in large part because you cannot respond to those you owe. No one relevant to this can contact you due to the order.

The ones you owe likely do not know how to reach you after you receive a restraining order. Those you owe should not contact you at work. You may be financially relieved due to this restraining order against you. Likely, your spouse will file for bankruptcy for joint debt, and that is that.

Custody-

Im a terrific father with great joy to my daughter as I managed a very unstable and substandard mother of this fantastic girl. Due to my gender, there is not a chance in hell I'll get custody of my daughter after a divorice. So here is what you may want to consider doing: Likely, your spouse that implemented this cruelty upon you is plain evil. This spouse likely has evil friends of their gender.


Cautiously, know where these evil friends of your spouse live. Likely, some of these friends use illegal drugs, or are abusers themselves. Find out when your spouse brings your child at the location of such friends for various reasons.

At that time, call the police, and make a report. You will not commit perjury by doing this. Say you hear screams from the friend's house- or smell something metallic, or smell pot. Anything like this. Be creative. Be intelligent.

Choose the friends of your spouse wisely. If you are lucky, cops arrive at the friend's house and busts the friend for such crimes mentioned earlier. Since your offspring are at this house during the bust, they are put in state custody. And guess what? The Division Of Family Services contacts you to retrive your offspring, my friend. They will reach you, most likely. This game plan is a stretch, but worth considering.

I'm not a vindictive person. I care about the utopic well-being of my daughter. As such, I'm tactically planning though my tremendous pain presently. This is why I share this with you."