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8/14/2014

Misuse Of A Restraining Order


Here is an Email about the misuse of a restraining order that I just received.

7/24/2014

Abusing A Restraining Order

When mild-mannered Bishops old boy Paul Jones told his friends that  the surprise domestic-violence order the police had served on him at work was obtained by a woman he’d threatened to unfriend on Facebook, many found it hard to believe – there had to be a more serious reason.
Even more bewildering to the 36-year-old Jones is that the purported victim – a woman with whom he’d “shared a kiss or two” in the space of a week, years ago – said she’d been advised to seek the order by his ex-girlfriend, well-known Cape Town attorney Ashley Bird.
The spurned friend is fashion designer Danielle Vermaas, who uses the professional name of Danielle Margaux. Two years after his flirtation with Vermaas, Jones hooked up with Bird. Their six-month relationship ended amicably, he thought, in July last year.
“I just want you to know that I have done a search on you and I’m very anxious because you and my ex-girlfriend have several Facebook friends in common.”
The ease with which strangers can connect through mutual friends on Facebook – and the painful consequences for Paul Jones – are what prompt his anxious first words when he meets with Noseweek at a restaurant in Newlands, Cape Town.
Although lawyer-talk first alerted Noseweek to the story, it took some sleuthing to identify Jones, and then numerous emails through an intermediary, to set up this meeting.
Noseweek had been tipped off that two of Jones’s exes – Ashley Bird, a one-time ballerina and now a partner in a top Cape Town law firm, and Danielle Vermaas, a local designer who goes by the name of Danielle Margaux – had purportedly teamed up to have a Domestic Violence protection order slapped on him, on charges that were patently without substance.
A domestic violence order is no trivial thing but lawyers, policemen and even magistrates have all contributed to trivialising it. (See editorial in this issue).
Bird and her partners at well-known law firm Morris, Morris, Morris and Morris have since been briefed about the facts of the case, but have refused to meet the victim of the outrage.
Jones finally agreed to see Noseweek as a last resort in a system that has failed him. “I’ve exhausted every avenue to clear my name,” he says.
After matriculating at Bishops, Jones went to England where he obtained an LLB (Hons) from the University of Buckingham. Back in Cape Town, he has for some years been working in the property development industry.
His story:
“Several years ago I met a girl called Danielle Vermaas at a dinner party. We became friends and kissed once or twice, but nothing serious happened between us. It was a very brief fling. I did not take it seriously from a romantic point of view. Quite simply, she is not my sort of woman.

“After that and during early 2009, we remained friends. She’d sometimes visit me at my parents’ home and became very fond of my mother.”
Might Vermaas have been under the impression they were in an exclusive relationship? “No. It was just a fun friendship,” Jones stresses.
During the first half of 2009, Vermaas started “getting weird”, says Jones: sending him numerous emails, phoning regularly, and constantly sending Facebook messages.
“[As a fashion designer], she would make me clothes, invite me to functions, cook food and show up at my flat with it, unannounced. I always turned her down.
“In a nutshell, she was in love with me. I kept saying, I’m not interested. Basically, I was just trying to say f-off.”
Towards the middle of 2009, Jones says he decided to start putting some “serious distance” between himself and Vermaas. He produces Facebook messages sent to him by Vermaas to demonstrate the point:
On 15 March 2009 at 11.07pm: Hi there! How are you? I am lying in my bed and thinking…I miss you and miss having you in my life and I would love to have you back in it…I do have a lot of issues, I know, and I suppose I am a difficult woman at times…In the same breath, I could have made the biggest tit out of myself now, because you might have met someone else…Deep down inside I hope you miss me as much as I miss you!…I don’t want you to feel that I am pressurising you…
On 21 April 2009: Hallo Paul, you must think I am crazy…I just read the mail I sent you on Sunday and it was a bit intense…It feels like my life is falling apart ...
On 13 July, 2009: Paul, I don’t understand why you don’t answer my emails. Have you thought about what I said? I really think we’d be great together.
Later that day Jones  replies:  Hi Danielle, I feel we keep going over this. I think you keep misreading my friendship. I like you as a person but am just not interested in going out with you. Please just accept this as you are making things awkward. Paul.

On 18 July, 2009, Vermaas writes: You are obviously very angry with me and have decided not to contact me at all. I, on the other hand, am not a person of a few words, as you very well know and have decided to mail you, because I know you won’t even pick up the phone if I try to call you. I should probably just let you be, but…I have gotten used to spending time with you… You always say I am needy. Perhaps, but it is because I feel like the outsider in your life, the one you keep at a distance…

You’re probably thinking I’m some sort of psycho chick and that I keep contacting you in all sorts of ways, but… I do mean well…Hope to hear from you soon, Danielle x.
Vermaas’s overtures continued, accelerating in November 2009 when Jones began a relationship with Bird. When he speaks about her, it’s easy to see that this was a woman who clearly meant something in Jones’s life. “We had our first date on 17 November. Ashley is beautiful and intelligent.”
About a week after this first date, Vermaas arrived at a bar where Jones was having a drink with friends, and tried to speak to him.
“She followed me home and insisted we talk. She asked me whether I was going out with Ashley Bird and then said she knew I was. She knew Ashley was Jewish and told me her father was Donald Bird. I didn’t know what she was talking about. It turns out that Donald Bird was Ashley’s grandfather. How Danielle came by this information, I don’t know. Danielle also made some derogatory remarks about Ashley being Jewish. It took quite an effort to get rid of Danielle that evening. I had to repeatedly ask her to leave.”
“She started crying, and told me she loved me, saying she was going to leave the country as there was nothing left for her here. She continued to slag off Ashley, using anti-Semitic comments.”
The next day, a somewhat freaked-out Jones removed Vermaas as a friend on Facebook.
On 30 November, Vermaas writes: Hey Paul, I am sorry for the things I said about your new girlfriend the other night. I just think you need to know that this girl is not for you. This relationship will not last. She is a Jew and they will not accept you. They are not like us. Ashley Bird, sy klink soos ’n Jood. I am telling you this because you need to know. Danielle.

The next day Jones responds: You need to leave me alone and stop saying bad things about my girlfriend  – she has done nothing to you.

After their showdown in November, Vermaas slowed down contact with Jones for a while, but a month or two later, she started sending more emails and Facebook messages.
“The tone was friendly – she claimed she wanted to be friends. She sent me a Facebook friend request [again], which I accepted. During December 2009 and January 2010, she made contact again. I did not respond as I was really in love with Ashley and did not think much about Danielle. She contacted me a few times in 2010 It all seemed harmless.”
For example on 1 January 2010, at 4.28pm, Vermaas writes: Hi Paul, haven’t spoken to you in a while and I thought it well to wish you all the best of luck for 2010…and especially with you starting a new job on Monday…good luck! I know that you will make a great success of it….
Jones and Bird dated from November 2009 until the end of June 2010, when they split up. He stresses that it was an amicable parting: that she had wanted “space”.
“There were no bad feelings between us. Everything was cool. In fact, she susequently sometimes asked me for my help, which I gave her freely.”
When her mother was diagnosed with a serious illness a few weeks later, Paul was among the first she told, and he was there to support her.
But this is where it gets really weird, he relates.
“In early August 2010, a month-or-so after his relationship with Bird ended, Vermaas started “causing problems again” on Facebook. This included sending friendship requests to female friends on his site. “They would call me, asking who is Danielle Vermaas? Why does she want to be my friend? I sent her an SMS asking her to stop, or I would remove her as a friend from Facebook. I felt she was up to no good.”
It gets weirder, he says, because,  within a week, Bird suddenly blocked him on Facebook.
“I sent her an SMS asking why she had done this, but she did not respond.”
Jones suspected that, some time between 6 and 12 August, Vermaas used Facebook to establish that Jones and Bird were no longer dating, that she then contacted Bird with the intention of causing trouble and driving a final wedge between them. [He would be proved correct – but that only comes later – Ed].
“Whatever Danielle told her, Ashley did not check with me whether what she had been told was true. I was confused and hurt as I couldn’t think of anything I had done wrong to her.”
Jones, in the meantime, had maintained a friendship with Bird’s mother. “I would occasionally call on her –  always by prior appointment – to take some flowers or just for a chat. She is a Mills & Boon addict. I started writing a Mills & Boon-type romance and would take bits of the manuscript to her for proofing; really just to entertain her.”
On 27 September 2009 he arranged to visit Bird’s mother and took her some fluffy white slippers and some bath salts. He hadn’t visited in the previous three weeks, prompting her to ask whether he’d been away.
“She asked if it was true I’d been dating another girl at the same time I was dating Ashley. She named Danielle Vermaas. I denied it emphatically. I explained that I’d had issues with Danielle before and that I’d always loved Ashley.”
Now he knew for certain that Danielle had contacted Ashley.
And, within no time he also knew that Ashley had rushed to tell Danielle that he knew. Because, within an hour they’d spoken to each other.
Within an hour of his visit to Mrs Bird, Jones received a hostile message from Ashley Bird – the first communication he’d had from her since her birthday three weeks earlier: “It’s time to move on now and leave me and my family alone. Please don’t contact me and my family again!”
(Later that evening, Ashely Bird SMSed him again: “Hi Paul. I apologise for my earlier SMS. I am really not in a good space. I do, however, think it is best for you to move on.”)
Next day, it was Vermaas sending Jones and his mother an SMS, asking to meet. (She also got a friend to ring his mother with the same message.) All these messages were ignored. But that was hardly reason to anticipate the shock of what came next.
Three days later Jones got a call from the manageress at his office: the police had called, looking for him.
For an outstanding parking ticket?
No, much more serious. In fact, the office manageress told him, the police had warned her that he was to be considered dangerous. They wished to serve a restraining order on him in terms of the Domestic Violence Act.
Danielle Vermaas had filed for a protection order (a kinder title for the same thing) against him on the 28 September – the day after Mrs Bird had revealed to him that Vermaas had contacted her daughter and had claimed he’d been double-dating them.
“The day before she filed for the order against me, she wanted to meet me. It was the most bizarre thing. When she filed for the restraining order, she told the police that I was to be considered violent. She gave them my work number and my work address. The police then made several phone calls to my office.
“My head just spun.”
Jones runs through the haze of what ensued over the next few days. His employers said they were concerned about how clients would react to the information. “I didn’t make a big deal of it. I just quietly left. What was I going to do?
“I then had to present myself at the Cape Town Police Station with my parents to sign for receipt of the order.
“I looked at  Danielle’s statement and couldn’t believe my eyes. It was all bullshit. The reasons she gave for wanting the restraining order were that I was a dishonest person who did not pay tax to SARS. She then cited an SMS from two months earlier, in which I threatened to remove her as a friend on Facebook if she did not leave me alone.”
He continues: “It was insane. There was one other thing: at the bottom of the application, she said the reason she was filing was that she had been advised to do it by my ex-girlfriend, Ashley Bird. I can’t describe how I felt. It made no sense.
“So now I have no job, somebody has a restraining order against me for no reason, and I hear that my ex-girlfriend,  someone I’ve only ever been kind to, is involved.”
Danielle Vermaas’s application for a protection order – Noseweek has obtained a copy –  is too long to reproduce here. Some excerpts:
  • A few weeks ago he sent me a sms saying “stop this facebook crap with Ashley. If I find anyone on her site tmrw who is not meant to be there my reaction will be extreme.” … on the 12th August 2010 one sms read (because I did not respond): “Call me in the next 5 mins or I am removing you permanently.”
  • I received a call from Ashley Bird…She is a lawyer…She suggested a restraining order.
  • I am an honest and trustworthy person who does not manipulate people. He is not an honest person as he does not pay taxes to SARS.
  • Please grant a restraining order, because he clearly despises me and I am scared.
Based on this affidavit, Magistrate Van der Spuy granted an interim protection order against Jones on 29 September. It reads, in part: “The respondent [Jones] is ordered not to commit the following acts of domestic violence: verbal, emotional, psychological abuse; not to harass, intimidate the applicant…not to communicate with the applicant at all, except through the courts or legal representatives”.
The order had been granted without notice and without Jones having been given a hearing – a fact that irks him about the nature of restraining orders and the ease with which they are granted. “It’s bizarre. The man is simply presumed guilty. It’s a case of ‘better safe than sorry’.”
Confused, but determined to get to the bottom of things, Jones contacted law firm Abrahams and Gross for advice. The attorneys took one look at the affidavit and told Jones he had a serious problem.
“They said there were no grounds for a restraining order, but that it was essential to get it dismissed as soon as possible. They said that Vermaas could try to deliberately manufacture a breach of the order which would mean I could be arrested and go to jail.
“My lawyers filed an opposing affidavit. It was quite simple – address each lie and show that the last contact you had with her was two months before she filed.”
Jones was able to provide tax records to show that, in fact, he had overpaid tax and had actually received a refund from SARS.
Jones’s answering affidavit is also in Noseweek’s possession.
Excerpts include: “The application is… ill-fated and amounts to a mockery of the true objectives of the Domestic Violence Act…Applicant and I never lived together in a relationship or partnership of any sort. [She] was merely a friend like all the other male and female friends that I have… [If] the scope of the Domestic Violence Act were to extend to an area as in this case…any confrontation in the normal scope of a friendship could be construed as domestic violence, with absurd consequences.”
His answering affidavit details how Vermaas sent “friend” requests to Jones’s friends on Facebook, which prompted him to tell her, in August 2010, that he was “permanently removing” her as a friend on Facebook. He says, “It is astonishing to note how the Applicant is distorting the true facts by using the phrase to mean that I have committed some sort of Domestic Violence against her”.
A lawyer from Abrahams and Gross attended the magistrate’s court, where he served the opposing affidavit on Vermaas.
Jones’s attorneys said they wanted to move to a court date. That was when Vermaas said that she wanted none other than Ashley Bird to represent her. Jones’s attorney reported: “[This} will be a complete disaster simply because Ms Bird will be a witness in the matter and I can see no reason why Ms Bird will want to get involved. Ms Vermaas also indicated that her main concern was that our client [Jones] was badmouthing her in and around the Jewish community from which she obtained most of her work.”
The next court date was set down, for 3 November last year, which left Jones with the interim order hanging over him and the cost of yet another court appearance.
On the return date, Vermaas showed up with an attorney – not Bird – and changed her tune once again. “Now she was asking for a restraining order requiring me to stop stalking her.”
Jones laughs bitterly: “I don’t even know where she lives or works and hadn’t seen her in 11 months. She  just wanted me to be found guilty of something”.
Jones received the following confirmation from family law attorney Bertus Preller on November 3: “I wish to confirm that Ms Vermaas has withdrawn her application. Initially she wanted an apology and an agreement that you won’t stalk her in future, which we naturally refused and we demanded that the matter go to trial, however, her attorney backed off and withdrew the application.”
When the attorneys phoned him with the good news that the application had been withdrawn, Joness heaved a sigh of relief. “I thought, phew, it’s all gone away.”
Jones goes on: “So, the application is dismissed, she walks out. At this stage, one side of me is relieved, as the stalker girl is gone, but another part of me feels aggrieved. Firstly, I had incurred unnecessary legal costs – I had stopped counting at R20,000. Secondly, I was furious that an unsubstantiated order had been brought against me by ‘a woman scorned’ who lied to the court, and thirdly, I could not understand why Ashley Bird had become involved. I could not think of a single thing I had done against her. The only thing I was guilty of was doing good things for her and her family. In return, she branded me with the stigma of a domestic violence charge which never goes away. People just think that you go around beating up women.”
Two weeks ago, Jones asked a woman out. “She had heard this story that I threaten women. Cape Town is a small place.”
He can’t imagine having a normal life and a normal relationship. “To be honest, women scare the shit out of me at the moment. I have no plans to date any women for the foreseeable future.”
Asked for comment on how on earth Jones had an interim protection order slapped against him on the basis of that application, Magistrate Van der Spuy referred Noseweek to Linda Unuvar, Judicial Head of the Family Court in Cape Town. While reluctant to comment on an individual case, Unuvar said:
“This is an affidavit. [In Danielle Vermaas’s case, it appears to have been an unsigned statement. – Ed.] If  a person takes an oath and says I have been threatened, and claims that someone is calling her at all hours and upsetting her emotionally, that is harassment. If she says under oath that any act of domestic violence is committed, the court must grant an interim protection order. That includes harrassment, intimidation, unwanted calling or SMSing. Even if such harassment is the only complaint, it still warrants an order.”
Unuvar said that once the order is served on the respondent, “the respondent can come to court and say, ‘this was served on me and it is not true, I want to bring the return date forward within 24 hours’. We give him the earliest available date. If it is urgent, we will hear it”.
Unuvar said there would have been nothing stopping someone in Jones’s position from asking for a counter order against his accuser and saying that in fact, he was the one being emotionally abused. “He would have had that right. He should have anticipated the hearing and asked the court for a protection order against her. We would have had a hearing within a few days.”
Unuvar stressed that protection orders are not granted if the court is not satisfied that some form of domestic violence has been committed. “If an interim order is granted, and, on the return date, the court is not satisfied, it will not confirm the order.”
Abuse of the system is the exception, she added. “We are all trained and experienced magistrates, but we do not know whether somebody is lying under oath.”
Vermaas had this to say to Noseweek: “I have spoken to my lawyer and have decided not to comment. I am very busy and am not going to invest any time in this.”
And Ashley Bird? She agreed to meet a reporter from Noseweek at a coffee shop near her office, and arrived accompanied by her colleague, Susan Dros. The answers she gave to Noseweek’s questions do not always tally with the documentary evidence that Noseweek has seen, and were aimed at generally discrediting Jones, while minimising the interaction she’d had with Vermaas and her role in the latter’s application for the protection order.
The closest Bird had got to giving Jones an explanation for her involvement in Vermaas’s application came in a letter she wrote to his mother shortly after the order was granted. Some extracts:
“I am sure you can understand the tension it caused when he would visit my mother and she would not tell me that he’d visited. I would hear from Olivia (my mother’s domestic worker) that he had visited and what had been said. I did not make a big deal out of this as I didn’t want to upset my mother and I assumed Paul was visiting with only good intentions.
“On 28 September I phoned home only to be told by Olivia that Paul was there again and talking to my mother about me. This upset me, as my mother had mentioned the day before that having visitors was very tiring. …When I came home … my mother confirmed … that Paul had made certain derogatory remarks about Danielle, which I do not believe to be true.
“Since I had been advised by Danielle that Paul had threatened her in the past – and I now knew he was aware that she and I had made contact… I did telephone Danielle, and I told her that if Paul were to threaten her with any further legal action, she should contact me to discuss it.
“Danielle advised me that she was scared Paul would harm her and she was thinking of taking out a restraining order… I advised her (as I would with anyone) that if she genuinely felt threatened… then she should get a restraining order. She asked me to assist her and I told her that she should ask the police…
“I am certain that the contents of this email…will be upsetting to you. I have not forgotten the beautiful things that Paul has done for my family and me, but I have had equally numerous unpleasant experiences involving Paul…
“Wishing you and Paul only the best. Ashley.”
Now, she told Noseweek that he was “weird”, that friends had told her he was an alcoholic (she confirmed that he had never consumed alcohol or smoked in her presence throughout their relationship in deference to her wishes, but now believed this to be a sign that he was “obsessive”); she said he was a “stalker” since friends had told her they had seen him “lurking” near her office and she believed she had seen him “lurking” downstairs from her Sea Crest apartment; that he kept visiting her mother “day and night” just to irritate her [Ashley]; that she had shown his “Mills and Boon” manuscript to a psychologist and a psychiatrist she knew and they had both described it as “abnormal, verging on psychotic”. [She sent us a copy, which I read in lurid anticipation, only to find it pretty harmless, even good, as Mills and Boon novels go. My diagnosis: that psychologist and psychiatrist must be “verging on the psychotic” – Ed.]
But, she emphasised, what really upset her were Jones’s “endless” lies. [i.e. don’t believe anything he tells you? – Ed.]
Did she herself have any reason to believe he might be violent? “Yes.” Why? “When he got angry, he would just get up and leave.”
Later Bird would add to the list that a “good friend” had recently told her Jones had plans to abduct her.
Jones’s retort: “What am I supposed to do with her, once I’ve abducted her? It is becoming increasingly clear that in order to justify what she did last year, she has attacked my character by spreading rumours and lies about me. I have now been accused by Ashley of being a liar, capable of irrational behaviour, an alcoholic, a cheating bastard and most recently an abductor. The last is just ludicrous.”
And what about Danielle Vermaas? Noseweek asks Bird.
“She contacted me on Facebook and we arranged to meet. We compared notes and worked out that Paul had been cross-dating us. She told me Paul had sent her a “weird” sms threatening that if she did not leave me alone, I [Ashley] was going to bring court applications against her. [Vermaas has not produced any evidence to support this allegation. – Ed.]
“I told her, if he threatens you like that, rather phone and ask me what the true position is.”
Bird explained her involvement in Vermaas’s protection order. “Danielle called me on my cell phone when I was in the car rushing to downtown to attend the HPCSA hearing of Erica Grous’s former psychiatrist, Dr Davids. She told me that Paul had threatened her – I wasn’t interested how – and that she was really frightened. She asked if she could get a restraining order. I said yes, if you’re scared. She asked if I could help her, but I said no, I don’t practise criminal law and I don’t want to get involved. I wouldn’t know where to start. I suggested she go to the police. It’s the advice I would have given to anyone.”
That was it? All on the spur of the moment?
“That was it.”
Surely the evidence suggests Vermaas had been “stalking” Jones, rather than the other way around? “Yes, they’re both weird. I want nothing more to do with either of them.”
Hold that thought for a moment. Because this is when the local version of WikiLeaks – an anonymous website hacker of sorts – steps in to really stir things up. Immediately after the restraining order was served on him, Jones spent many evenings at his favourite pub mulling over the mysteries of the case with his friends. Somebody obviously knew somebody, because three months after the event, says Jones, a parcel of web printouts appeared in his postbox. They were of Facebook messages that Vermaas had sent to various friends in a plot to cause trouble between Jones and Bird.
It transpires Jones was right in suspecting that something fishy was up early in August 2010. The printouts show that on 5 August she sent a note to her friend Rasheda Samuels: “I see you are friends with Miss Bird whahahahaha” and she asks Rasheda: “so tell me – are they still a married couple ?????”.
On 9 August she writes to her friend Gustav Louw who has also befriended Bird on Facebook: “My fuck Gustav, I see you are friends with Ashley Bird!!!! This calls for an evening of champagne and snooping on her Facebook site!!!!”
The proposed evening of champagne and snooping appears to have paid off. Next day she was writing to Bird:
“I would normally not email someone I don’t know, but I had a very strange email from your boyfriend Paul tonight. He seems upset about mutual people we know on Facebook and implies that I have got something to do with this… [Jones found she was approaching Facebook friends he had in common with Bird and told her to lay off, or he’d unfriend her. – Ed.]
“What you do, your relationship and friends have nothing to do with me. I have no issues with you being his girlfriend now.
“I suppose this is as strange for you as it is for me. Good luck! Danielle.”
Every line was a lie, but Ashely took the bait.
Bird’s reply: “Dear Danielle, Paul is not my boyfriend and has not been for a while. Whilst we were together he did tell me that you wanted him back but I never commented. I would like to meet for a coffee. There is much I would like to discuss.”
Danielle’s happy reply: “I should also like to meet up with you for a chat. I am rather shocked now, but we can discuss everything when we meet.
Ashely’s reply: “Cool, Friday after work.”
That weekend Bird “unfriended” Jones on Facebook.
Also amongst the “hacker’s” printouts is the anxious message sent by Bird to Vermaas on 27 September: “Need to chat urgently.”
Two hours later Vermaas writes: “Thanks for calling me…I would like to discuss with you sometime what the procedure is with regards to getting a restraining order. I think it would be better if I get it, before he does something…I had a bad feeling ever since I met him. Let me know when you will be available to discuss the restraining order, as I am very serious about it. Perhaps it would be in your best interests to get one too!”
Bird’s reply: “I have no idea how to get a restraining order, but will find out. Let’s do coffee.”
So, not quite the rushed conversation while driving, then.
Bird told Noseweek that Jones had given lawyer Susan Dros copies of several of these illicitly obtained Facebook printouts. But, she said, she was not at liberty to show them to us as they were the subject of a police investigation. The police, she added ominously, believe they know the address from which the Facebook interloper operated.
Matters get stranger still: between February and May this year, Bird’s Facebook friends started receiving abusive messages about her, all emanating from Vermaas’s Facebook address. A sample: “How’s your stupid Jewish friend now. She’s a loser.”
She addressed a lawyer’s letter to Vermaas demanding that she immediately stop sending these messages and threatening court action.
Vermaas’s lawyers responded by saying that someone had pirated Vermaas’s Facebook site and that her friends, too, had been receiving abusive messages. And that she had already reported the matter to the police.
So who’s up to no good now? And who’s trying to mislead whom?

6/26/2014

Why I Want To Go To Prison

My idea on how to remove myself from a living hell. :::::::: Today, I'm 47 years old, and I want to go to prison. Here is what happened: Over 7 years ago, I filed a whistleblower lawsuit against Novartis Pharmaceuticals. They were my employer, and they were fracturing federal laws. You can read about what I did here: click here That lawsuit I filed is public record. So I learned that no one wanted to hire me after blowing the whistle against this huge corporation. In 2009, weeks after learning I would not receive a settlement for that lawsuit I filed, my then wife falsely accused me of violently abusing her. You can read about that here: click here As a result of my unemployment and losing everything and everyone, I became homeless for a few years. Presently, I have a part time job that pays next to nothing. It's a struggle for me to pay bills. And I continue to have very few possessions. You can read about my present situation here: click here It's important to note that my life presently really is not that bad. Right now I have two lovers. They are both wonderful and beautiful girls who take care of me in different ways. And they are both fully aware of my at times amplified emotional state. My mental health really is at times questionable. However my physical health is excellent. For my age, I have a great deal of strength and energy. So I'm really thankful and greatful for my present condition. But I am understandably completely exhausted. I'm tired from being beat up so traumatically by my life and how it has evolved. I've lost so much and I have you could say so little right now. In many ways my life is at times a living hell. Often I wake up in the morning hoping tomorrow will somehow be better then today. Being alone is at times very difficult for me. So going to prison seems like a very good ideal to me at times. While there, I could sleep, read and write. And I would be free I think of any worries or concerns. while in prison, I could attempt to rest and refuel for the next chapter in my life. Prepare for what is next for me after my time in prison. And I'm sure I'd make some new friends while incarcerated. But what is a good way to go to prison? I'm unjable to harm anyone, so that is not an avenue I could take. And I don't steal. Although I've thought about stealing a car so I could go to prison for awhile. There overall is no desirable way for me to go to prison. If my desire however increases to go to prison, I'll probably end up stealing something. But I'll steam from an establishment. Not another individual. I was in jail once for a few weeks. And I understand that prison is better in many different ways instead of jail. For now I'll continue with my life as it is right now. I'll continue to be with those who are very good for my soul. They are people who understand me in some way and who do not judge me. Such people include real brothers and soul mates. People who definitely are the reason I still exist today. Ill truly miss them when I go to prison. So I hope they write me when I am there.

5/13/2014

Domestic Violence Charlotte NC ?

I just read that Greg Hardy of the Carolina Panthers was arrested for suspicion of Domestic Violence in Charlotte, and you can be sure a restraining order will follow his release.

CHARLOTTE, N.C. — 
Carolina Panthers defensive end Greg Hardy was arrested on suspicion of domestic violence involving his girlfriend, according to Charlotte-Mecklenburg police.

The charge is a misdemeanor, police said.

Hardy was charged with assault on a female and communicating threats, according to police.

Hardy is expected to stay in jail until his first court appearance, which is set for 9 a.m. Wednesday.

The police report states the victim is 24 years old and they have been in an active relationship since September 2013.

In a statement from the Panthers, team officials said, "We are very disappointed to learn of the allegations involving Greg and are concerned for all parties as we continue to investigate."

Hardy, nicknamed The Kraken, was drafted by Carolina in the sixth round of the 2010 NFL Draft and played his college ball at Ole Miss.

Hardy signed a franchise tag tender with the Carolina Panthers in March.  He will make $13.1 million next season if he doesn't sign a long-term extension before July 15.

With all the recent arrests of NFL Players and famous athletes, one has to wonder if some of this is an attempt by these "victims" to exhort money from the athletes. A Domestic Violence conviction could cost Greg Hardy plenty in future revenue from commercials and pay from the Carolina Panthers. We are talking millions of dollars here. So, his girlfriend claims he hit her, then agrees to drop charges for half a million dollars. Always remember, in the world of Domestic Violence arrests, and restraining order violations, there are always 2 sides to every story.
Greg Hardy could be an innocent victim here.

4/29/2014

Hillsborough County Sheriffs Detective Gets Off Easy

Though this story is not related to restraining orders here in Hillsborough County Florida, it seems to be proof positive that there is a different standard applied to the Hillsborough County Police, and regular citizens.


Some of us have been charged with domestic violence, and violations of restraining orders, and we go to jail, and have our lives ruined by the public arrest records. Yet, this Hillsborough County Police Officer can get away with pulling a gun on a citizen, and never goes to jail, or has his arrest record made public! 

Hillsborough County Sheriffs Detective, in a Fit of Road Rage, Not Booked into Jail, Faces Little Punishment


"I am Going To Fucking Kill You!”
April 26, 2014 
When Evan Rees was rear-ended in his car, he naturally looked backwards to see what had just smashed the glass out of his rear window. What he saw next was a man jumping from a pick-up truck who started rushing at his car.
Rees, who had family in his car, got out to greet the man. At this point, a shouting match began, the man then grabbed him and the two men went to the ground.
The man that began the assault happened to be a 55 year old, Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office homicide detective, Thomas Pettis.
Jeff Krumm and family happened to be driving to Disney World that same day, and drove by this scene right before the men went to the ground so he stopped to help.
As he approached, Krumm said in a statement to police, one of the men — later identified as Pettis — grabbed Rees by the collar. The pair locked up and went to the ground. Krumm and another bystander managed to yank them apart.
Krumm said he was standing next to Pettis when the deputy pulled a handgun from an ankle holster.
In his statement to investigators, Krumm said he heard Pettis tell Rees, “I’ll shoot your ass” or “something to that effect,” according to Sheriff’s Office records. Krumm’s girlfriend, Alissa Mitchell, told investigators that she heard Pettis say, “I’m going to kill you!”
Krumm, thinking of his children waiting in the car, began to carefully back away from Pettis. He was surprised when Pettis flashed his badge. “He never acted like a police officer, in my view of what a police officer should have done,” Krumm said in an interview with the Times.
No charges were filed against Rees and Pettis was criminally charged and resigned.
However, Pettis’ brandishing of a handgun could meet the statutory definition of aggravated assault with a firearm, a felony punishable by a prison sentence of at least three years and up to five. Yet he was only prosecuted for misdemeanor battery, a charge that qualifies him for pre-trial intervention programs and the avoidance of criminal penalties.
Also Pettis was the only subject in this specific felony investigation, and was never booked into jail, his mugshot was never taken, and he did not have to face the embarrassment that ‘commoners’ must undergo for a simple DUI of having their face published on the internet.
Unfortunately the justice system is setup in a manner to allow for special treatment of those who work inside of it. Until the justice system is held accountable for their actions, we can expect to see these same scenarios playing out across the county.
It is the duty of free human beings to expose these abuses of power.

Read more at http://thefreethoughtproject.com/cop-pulls-gun-fit-road-rage-booked-jail-faces-punishment/#UfZ33DwYrOa0GwEW.99

1/11/2014

Email Violation Of Restraining Order ?

This poor guy had a restraining order in place against him. He says Google sent an email invite out in his name.
n what one expert on Internet privacy calls "a worst-case scenario," a Massachusetts man was jailed for sending his ex-girlfriend (who had a restraining order against him) an email invitation to joinGoogle+.
But Thomas Gagnon contends he didn't send it; Google did, without his knowledge or consent.
When his ex-girlfriend received the invitation, according to the Salem News, she went to the police, complaining Gagnon had violated the restraining order by sending her the email. Police agreed and arrested him, the News reported. He was jailed then released on $500 bail.
A hearing in the case has been set for Feb. 6. Gagnon's attorney, Neil Hourihan, told the News his client has no idea how the invitation got sent, since Gagnon insists he didn't send it.
Efforts by ABC News to contact Hourihan and Gagnon were not successful.
Attorney Bradley Shear of Bethesda, Md., an internationally recognized expert on Internet privacy, told ABC News it's entirely possible Gagnon is telling the truth -- that he did not intentionally or knowingly send the invitation. "If he didn't send it -- if Google sent it without his permission and he was jailed for it -- Google could be facing major liability," Shear said.
Google did not respond to a request for comment by ABC News.
Google+ allows users to aggregate their email contacts into various groups -- school classmates, say, or professional associates or old flames. Moving a contact from one category to another, Shear explained, can trigger Google to send, automatically, an email to the contact inviting them to join Google+.

Shear pointed out a Google product forum from 2011 and 2012 titled "Prevent automatic email invitations to Google+?" that contains a number of angry complaints by Google+ users about the automatic invitation feature.
One customer wrote: "As soon as I add an email to a circle, Google seems to send an email automatically asking that person to join Google Plus. Is there any way of turning this off? I don't want Google to send any email on my behalf without my permission. At least I would expect some sort of warning."

In response these complaints, a Google Community Manager calling herself "Natalie" responded: "Thanks for your feedback. Right now the emails that go out alert people of your activity on Google+, and more importantly the sharing of content with them. We send them an email when they aren't yet on Google+ so they know that you are out there in the world [of] G+. They should only incur this email once."
But once was all it took to land Gagnon in jail.
Another Google+ user on the same forum demands to know: "Why was I not warned this was going to occur[?] Why on earth do you presume to know who I want to invite?"
Shear noted: "Google is going through every one of your contacts and sending them an invitation, whether it's your doctor, your lawyer, your mistress, or your ex-fiancee who's got a restraining order against you."
He called this, "a perfect example of what happens when a company oversteps its bounds."

8/05/2013

Former Tampa Bay Buccaneer Chartric Darby Arrested

 Former Tampa Bay Buccaneers nose tackle Chartric Darby has been arrested and charged with domestic battery.
The Pasco County Sheriff's office says an officer responded to a call about an argument at Darby's home in Land O'Lakes. Darby's wife told police they started arguing when she wanted to leave to take care of some things and Darby pushed her in the chest.
Darby told police he had been arguing but it was not physical. The officer did not see any marks or redness on Darby's wife, but he was arrested based on her statement.
They have been married 11 years and have three children together.
Darby was the starting nose tackle for Tampa Bay's Super Bowl win in 2002. He also played for Seattle and Detroit.
It is important to note that he has not been found guilty of anything. They have 3 kids together, and hopefully they will work things out for themselves, w/o the Pasco County Florida Criminal Justice systems help.

7/29/2013

Restraining Order Petition

My boyfriend and I were both served "stay away" orders by his ex (she files restraining orders on anyone and everyone), we were served by publication meaning his ex put an ad in a newspaper where we don't even live and that was identified as proper service. Her claims are outrageous and blatant lies, I work with kids (I teach, volunteer) and now this order is forever on my record even though we are in the process of trying to vacate the order. Order of protections are against all our civil rights, we were not even present when the judge granted a plenary order which is against what the law entails. I launched a petition on change.org in efforts to raise awareness to how much this law is being abused, and how it is unjustly served. I'm looking for people to join in and help spread the word and I know your blog has been super helpful to me with all the information and stories of other victims shared. Is there anyway you could post it to your blog? I'd appreciate any help you could give, thank you! http://www.change.org/petitions/the-supreme-court-feather-for-the-falsely-accused