This Blog is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Some posters are court ordered to have no contact of any kind with the person having a Restraining Order against them. Meaning no third party contact as well. If you by chance know a person one of our posters/authors is discussing to share their experiences with others, we ask you to respect our rights to free speech, under the United States Constitution. Restraining Order Blog is not meant to harass, directly or indirectly contact, harm, intimidate, bring any emotional distress, stalk or cyberstalk, nor intentionally slander or damage any individual in any way. Nor is it intended to initiate any third party contact on behalf of any poster or author, or violate a current restraining order in any way either. If you feel there is anything here that is slanderous, untrue, or illegal, please bring it to our attention. We will examine your request promptly, and any post you find offensive will be reviewed for removal in a timely manner. If you have a story to share, email me at ka7niq@yahoo.com, and I will add you as an author on Restraining Order Blog.












11/05/2017

Personal Protection Order (PPO) Questions

Here are some Personal Protection Order Questions from one of our readers.

My wife left me out of the blue, took $20,000 out of our mutual bank accounts, took both vehicles, took our dogs, furniture, shut off our electric, my phone, our cable and internet, and moved into her boyfriends home.  I lost my job because I could not call in or get to work.  Then she told the police that I had chest bumped her, so they came to my home everyday for 9 days while she removed property from the home.  I could not do anything about it.  After 2 weeks of her torture I was able to get back on my feet, at this point she had played the victim and painted me black to everyone I know, nobody would even speak to me.  He cousin messaged me one day after I had met with the Catholic Diocese in regards to my wife abruptly leaving our marriage trying to figure out what I may have done to deserve this.  In talking with her cousin I stated our marriage vows to him, for better or for worst, sickness and in health, till death do us part.  He forwarded this to her and she got a PPO put on me for a death threat and stating that I have many guns.  I dont even own a gun.  I also stated to her cousin that she was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder which she also reported was false in her PPO request.  I have her books, her diagnosis from her psych doc, and a letter she had written to me stating she was diagnosed with that.  I also have all of her appointments and medications she was to be on as she used my HSA card to pay for everything.  My wife recently gave me HPV, 3.5 years after being together.  We had also just bought our dream home.  She had to have a oblation done because of the damage it did to her cervix.  We were only in our new home for 3 weeks, just got the OK to have children and she bolted, taking everything.  Just recently I had went to a mutual friends two year old sons birthday party to drop off a gift.  I pulled into a parking lot close to the building where the party was, not even the same parking lot as the building and as I stepped outside the vehicle there where two police men that pulled up behind me. 
 They asked my name, I told them who I was and they place me in their vehicle under arrest for a PPO violation.  My wife was at the birthday party, I did not know, and at a minimum 300ft from the building.  I never even seen her, she heard that I was coming and had the police waiting for me to arrive.  How can this even be legal?  I was told by the police that she calls at least twice a day claiming PPO violations, they stated that she called the night before reporting she seen me but I never even left my home.  I have never contacted her in any way shape or form.  Ohh, she was taken off her meds for 3 months during the HPV thing, so that we could start having children as soon as she was cleared.  My assumption is she lost her sense of reality, all she can do to save her behind in divorce is has me locked up.  I did file a motion against the PPO the day I received it, however it took 45 days to get a court date.  I am supposed to go to court for this in 13 days, however I now have to deal with this mess.  What are my rights, and why is it that woman can just say whatever they want with no evidence and they believe them, yet I have all the evidence in the world and cant get anyone to even look at it.  HELP!!

8/31/2017

Victimized By Florida Restraining Order

Hello
I'm being victimized in the same way as the blog mentions my wife lied to get into shelter and had painted me as an abuser when she's never been abused ever in her life. They pressured her to file a Florida restraining order with promise of $1500 which she did it to get this money but now can't text or call me
Any help how to deal with this please contact me - it seems the government is against me based on her word alone and prevents me from talking to my spouse to work out the marital problems and uses its taxpayer funds to help her when she is not in any real need - it's like an innocent man trying to go against a system that is above the law and the injustice is rampant with no recourse for the innocent man like myself... 
I feel like I'm the victim in this whole thing being victimized by the shelter and system that's above the law and is funded by tax dollars with no checks to see if the woman's telling the truth just believe whatever lie she tells to give her benefits and free legal help etc when I have to hire lawyer to defend myself etc and they prevent married people from working out their issues because you aren't allowed to speak to your spouse etc instead they should offer counseling to try to save marriages - this is Florida it's happening to me in and they claim to be family friendly state - bs 
If anyone has any help please post something here for me

1/31/2017

The Harm of False Domestic Violence Allegations

The Harm of False Domestic Violence Allegations

Alexa Martin

Every couple fights, the only difference is how heated the fight becomes and what actions take place following the spark of the argument. Take Jeff and his girlfriend, for instance. Both are in their mid-twenties and his girlfriend tends to ‘go off the deep end’ when arguing. Last week, she called the cops on him and claimed he grabbed her by the wrists in attempt to control her. While Jeff was grabbing her wrists in defense, the police arrested Jeff and now he is undergoing extensive scrutiny by police as well as the public. Jeff’s girlfriend called the cops in an emotional state where she thought she could just have Jeff removed for the night. Instead, he is now potentially faced with life-altering judgements by society as well as a restraining order.

False Domestic Abuse Allegations
It is common for a man or woman to call the police during an altercation if an argument gets emotionally and physically charge in efforts to protect oneself. There are many common examples of false abuse allegations such as:

·       Self-defense situations
·       Automatic reactions to pranks
·       Unintentionally blocking the exit
·       Holding the arms of the other person during an altercation.

The list of possible false abuse allegations is extensive but the bottom line is that once a domestic violence call is made, the police must continue the investigation. Typically, nobody can drop the charges but the district attorney. This means that if you claim domestic abuse in the home, and regret it later due to the false allegation, it is now in the hands of the law and the repercussions will follow the abuser.
Most states are required to follow through with an arrest during a domestic violence call to ‘error on the side of caution’. Often restraining orders are brought to the alleged abuser to separate the two-people involved in the violent altercation. Unfortunately, according to an organization called Save Services, 70% of restraining orders are false and 700,000 people are wrongfully arrested for domestic violence every year. Since a restraining order is an official court order, regardless of if you committed domestic violence or not, there are serious consequences if any violation occurs. Craig Orent, a specialized domestic violence lawyer, lays out the different forms of domestic violence:

·       Physical Violence
·       Sexual abuse
·       Psychological abuse
·       Emotional abuse
·       Forced economic dependency

Each form of domestic violence has different repercussions depending on the violence and severity in each case. For example, according to Arizona law, domestic violence can be anything like:

·       Intimidation
·       Harassment
·       Stalking
·       Videotaping without consent
·       Endangerment
·       Kidnapping
·       Emotional abuse
·       Aggressive behavior

The unjust nature of false accusations of domestic abuse extend beyond tarnishing another person's’ reputation in their family, society, and the workplace, but subjecting someone to a restraining order can result in serious fines or jail time if the wrongfully accused ‘abuser’ unintentionally violates the court order. Additionally, the alleged abuser could potentially walk away with an arrest, fines, and jail time for a false conviction; on the other hand, the district attorneys in the United States have never prosecuted the person who made the false claim. Essentially, one party could lose everything while the guilty party could walk away unscathed.

Ultimately, Jeff did not receive jail time because the case was built upon facts and the facts only showed how great he was as a boyfriend- no sign of any abuse. His record was clean, he cooperated with the police force, he hired an experienced attorney, and he is one of the lucky ones that is able to move on knowing he was exonerated.

Domestic violence is a horrible crime that deserves to be punished, but a false allegation is also detrimental and can lead to penalties in all aspects of life. Awareness about the effects of domestic violence false allegations and unnecessary restraining orders is imperative in order maintain a society who upholds justice.

1/30/2017

Harassment Restraining Order Questions


Hello,

Please consider adding my post to your blog,  I'm hoping to get answers, 

I'm in the midst of a restraining order hearing- I am the respondent,

The Petitioner is filing a case against me not for threats, but instead for sending emails to get my property back-
The petitioner blocked my email address, phone number and dropped me from social media.

I wrote several emails, nothing in them was threatening or made any type of accusations, or were disrespectful in any way, actually they were very nice, asking to meet up to get my property back.  The Petitioner has claimed the emails were blocked and were deposited directly into a SPAM folder, now is opening the folder and claiming the peace of mind is interrupted, and its harassing to get the emails.

That is it-  nothing more- and I think the Judge is also wondering where the harassment is- but is anyone familiar with cases that were dismissed becasue the Petitioner claiming harassment because of emails they DID NOT get, but opened later on?

I look forward to any possible comments, how will I know if anyone responds to a blog post?

10/12/2016

Recovering Addicts Share 'Mind-Blowing' Stories About Not Being Judged





Recovering Addicts Share 'Mind-Blowing' Stories About Not Being Judged

Going to rehab can be a scary thing for an addict — even one who desperately wants to get better. When you come clean about your lifestyle and put it out there in the open, it’s hard to imagine that people won’t be judging you at every turn. This likely puts a lot of people off from getting the help that they need, but fortunately those that make the leap to rehabilitation tend to find that there is a lot less judgment than they expect.

Christy, a recovering addict, needed to go through some difficult emotions and deep, personal issues before getting the help she needed. She’d had an affair and felt she had neglected her children, and she felt a great deal of shame. She had a hard time finding someone to talk to without fear of judgment until she went to rehab. 

“I was able to open up about it,” she told me. “I guess I thought that everybody would think I was a horrible mother and wife. But nobody judged me; these people have done bad things too. They’re not here to judge me. They accepted me. They hugged me and told me it was OK while I was crying and admitting things.”

Zach, who recently reached his first year of sobriety, told me he felt “empty and alone” when he first arrived at rehab.

“I was ashamed of myself, I felt guilty, and I didn’t think anyone else was going through what I was going through. I had a wife and kids, other people I was responsible for. I thought I’d go there and have people judging me. But it was mind-blowing when I got there. I’ll never forget when I first got to my treatment facility. I had just gotten out of my intake with the nurse, and she introduced me to someone. He said, ‘Hey, friend! What are you here for?’ And I told him. He said, ‘Don’t be ashamed — we’re all addicts here!’ That’s something that’s always stuck with me.

“I didn’t think anyone else had ever been where I was in life, or would be able to relate to anything that was going on in my head,” he added. “That was also a big part of why I didn’t hide out in my room. People would walk by me and introduce themselves when I first got there, and it was still kind of overwhelming because I was still withdrawing. It was mind-blowing how people really connected with me without even talking to me, and just knowing what was going through my head just by me being there.”

“It felt great,” said Jeff about his experience at the Treehouse, an Addiction Campuses facility in Texas. “The wall I had built kind of started to come down. It was beautiful because here I was with a bunch of strangers, but yet in some form or fashion, I could relate to every single one of them. You don’t have to feel like you’re being judged or you're going to let anyone down. There’s no reason to feel guilt or any shame. It was only supportive. It was very freeing.

“It was especially helpful being able to unload all of my thoughts and all of my baggage having been such an isolated user, and having people tell me, ‘I’ve felt that exact same thing.’ I felt like I was the only one — in the billions of people that have ever lived — who had ever had this problem to this degree. But of course that’s not true. And a lot of people have it a lot worse.”

Jeff was struck by how people were not forced into interaction and the freedom that was allowed.

“I learned more from my fellow addicts than I learned from anybody there,” he recalled. “It was a beautiful experience and I’m very grateful to have taken part in it. ...

“It showed me that it doesn’t have to be that hard,” he added. “It’s all about being honest — you’ve got to be honest with yourself and you’ve got to be honest with others, and that’s hard. It’s especially hard to be honest with yourself. It was amazing taking a step back and looking at what I’d done and being able to forgive myself and ask for forgiveness without dwelling on it. You’ve just got to let it go. My fellow addicts helped me to do that with their stories. I didn’t expect any of that to come out of it.”

Scott, another recovering addict, shared some interesting perspective as someone who helps others through a commitment group. He stands in front of groups and opens meetings. He called himself the “face of the meeting”.

“The one thing you don’t want to do is come across as preaching, because not everyone is ready,” he explained. 

“You don’t judge, because you’re not there to judge,” he told me. “When people talk at the podium, you don’t judge and you don’t compare — you’re just trying to identify. You don’t listen to someone speak and say, ‘I didn’t do that, so that must not be true.’ You have to identify and not compare. If I compared myself to others, I probably wouldn’t be sober.”

Everybody goes through traumas and dramas and has had things happen that brought them to where they are now,” said Lincoln, who hit his first year of sobriety this past summer. “But no matter what you’re going through, somebody has been through it before you, and somebody was able to get past where you are now. A lot of people think their problems are too much for any one person to handle. But just because someone has a smile on their face every day doesn’t mean they haven’t been through tough times. That’s the benefit of having AA and support meetings — once you walk in, you already know those people have had the problems you’ve had. No one is judging you. ...

“I’ve done a lot of really wrong things in my life — not because I was raised to be that way, but just through using and wanting to get my next fix,” Lincoln admitted. “I was blown away being at the podium and speaking to groups and not being judged. I talked to my father for the first time in a year and told him I was remorseful for the things I had done, but it was hard to be sorry — if things hadn’t happened the way they did, I wouldn’t be where I am now.

“Everybody has a past. Nobody cares about the past. To me, the past is a non-issue. You can’t judge someone on their past. If we’re judging someone on their past mistakes, no one will get out alive. I like to think, ‘What are you doing now to make yourself better for tomorrow?’”

Lincoln’s words of wisdom really are the key to sobriety. It’s important to be honest, but you can’t dwell on the past. It’s all about making things better, and it’s amazing how much support these recovering addicts have managed to find when they put in the effort to make that improvement a reality.

5/11/2016

Wrestler Arrested In Hillsborough County Florida For Domestic Violence

I just saw this on the news, and it is important to reserve judgement until this Hillsborough County Man has had his day in court. It really is a sad situation when 2 people are trying to talk out their problems w/o getting the Police involved that a person can be arrested and charged with a Felony for "Tampering with a witness". In fact, the penalty for "Tampering with a witness" is much more severe then the penalty for actually hitting a person in a Domestic Violence incident. I guess the Police here in Hillsborough County Florida value a witness who can testify and make a case against someone more then a victim who has been beaten. Imagine a Man and his wife have an argument, they both scream at each other, and the wife goes to call the Police. The Man, not wishing to have his neighbors see the Police come to their home, simply grabs the phone from his wife. That simple act of not allowing his irrational wife to call the police will get you charged with a Felony here in Hillsborough County Florida. And, get this, it matters not if the domestic violence charges are proven to be untrue and dismissed in Court or not. Here is the story below of The Wrestler Known As Adam Rose, Who Was Arrested Here In Hillsborough County Florida For Domestic Violence. Hillsborough County deputies arrested WWE star Raymond Leppan Wednesday. Leppan, 36, is charged with domestic battery and preventing the victim from contacting law enforcement. Leppan is known as Adam Rose. Deputies said he engaged in a verbal argument with the victim about marital problems at a residence in the 18000 block of Sparrows Nest Drive. Leppan “grabbed the victim on each side of her face with his hands and pulled her face close to his while he screamed at her,” deputies said. When the victim called 911, Leppan allegedly took the phone away so she couldn’t report the incident. “The defendant admitted to taking the phone away from the victim so she could not report the incident,” deputies said. The WWE released the following statement: “Raymond Leppan (a.k.a. WWE Superstar Adam Rose) was arrested at his home this morning by the Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office in Tampa, Fla. According to a police report, Leppan was taken into custody and booked on alleged charges of tampering with a witness, a felony, and battery domestic violence, a misdemeanor. He is currently being held without bond. WWE has zero tolerance for matters involving domestic violence, and per our policy, Raymond Leppan has been suspended indefinitely following his arrest.”

5/06/2016

Man Seeks Restraining Order Against God

An Israeli man has launched a campaign to stop God interfering in his life after three years of poor treatment at the hands of the Almighty. The unidentified man submitted a restraining order request against His Holiness at an Israeli court on Tuesday. He said that God had been bothering him for three years and that repeated requests to the police had been ignored, with the authorities only sending patrol cars to his home on 10 occasions and not taking his calls seriously. Authorities eventually told the man to take out a restraining order in court against the Lord, he said, so he duly obliged at the Magistrate Court in the northern Israeli port city of Haifa. “For the past three years He started to treat me harshly and not nicely. I complained to the police many times. The Israel police asked me to take out a restraining order,” the man said in the proceedings at the court, according to Israeli news site NRG. God appeared to take note of the man’s complaints as the document of the court proceedings, published after the restraining order request, noted that He did not present himself at the hearing. One has to wonder if a warrant for God's arrest was issued by the judge for failure to appear ? The ruling judge, Ahsan Canaan, threw the request out of court, saying that the attempt was absurd and that he should seek help elsewhere and not from the local authorities, The Times of Israel reported. God was not immediately available for comment.

3/10/2016

false stalking injunctions in Pinellas County, FL

Here is a letter from a reader of this Blog to me all about her experiences with false stalking injunctions in Pinellas County Florida that were filed against her. Hi Chris, This is (Name Hidden)- We spoke around the 3rd of March. At this time, plz do not use my name but use Lady Warrior instead for now. I have successfully won all of my false stalking injunctions in Pinellas County, FL in the last three years... It has been a horrible experience! And financially draining as well! Especially, if you know how unfair and unbalanced this statute is! Free to file and the clerks even help them fill out the paperwork! Not to mention that you cannot expunge it--- Even if you get it dismissed, people can still view it and not see the dismissal etc. but your NAME ATTACHED TO THE WORD STALKING!
This literally insane criminal female misfit and her brother (etc), attempted to file six false stalking injunctions in Pinellas County Florida on me, but only three went before the court! One even became CASE LAW IN FLORIDA! The basis of this is retaliation, maliciousness etc.is because I am working w/ local L E, and the State as a whistle blower/informant regarding their economic criminal activity. Especially, after, I became one of their victims! . More on that later. Talk about watching perjury in action! Which, rately gets filed in the Tampa Bay area--- More on that soon- Here are some tips- *Document everything- keep a journal. *Educate yourself. *Contact (as high up as you can) in L E and the Courts etc. and let them know your concerns. Keep it up until they listen to you. Have a witness if you speak to them. I have had them twist things around... Lying!!! *E-mail and or write the Chief Circuit Court Judge! Use his own language- "To keep a fair and balanced Court"etc... *Contact the State Legislature! This statute needs to be modified to say the least! *Contact the media and or an investigative reporter! Be careful here as they can spin your story! *HIRE A COMPETENT CARING,COMPASSIONATE ATTORNEY THAT GETS IT AND WILL FIGHT FOR YOU! Remember, you know your story best... Pro se can be very difficult and can go sideways on you too--- Stay strong and positive- you are doing the right thing! Take care of yourself and speak to those only that support you... Do not be disrespectful or a hot head- it will get you no where when fighting a false stalking injunction in Pinellas County Florida! Pray- it does work! Warrior Lady