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Why I Want To Go To Prison

My idea on how to remove myself from a living hell. :::::::: Today, I'm 47 years old, and I want to go to prison. Here is what happened: Over 7 years ago, I filed a whistleblower lawsuit against Novartis Pharmaceuticals. They were my employer, and they were fracturing federal laws. You can read about what I did here: click here That lawsuit I filed is public record. So I learned that no one wanted to hire me after blowing the whistle against this huge corporation. In 2009, weeks after learning I would not receive a settlement for that lawsuit I filed, my then wife falsely accused me of violently abusing her. You can read about that here: click here As a result of my unemployment and losing everything and everyone, I became homeless for a few years. Presently, I have a part time job that pays next to nothing. It's a struggle for me to pay bills. And I continue to have very few possessions. You can read about my present situation here: click here It's important to note that my life presently really is not that bad. Right now I have two lovers. They are both wonderful and beautiful girls who take care of me in different ways. And they are both fully aware of my at times amplified emotional state. My mental health really is at times questionable. However my physical health is excellent. For my age, I have a great deal of strength and energy. So I'm really thankful and greatful for my present condition. But I am understandably completely exhausted. I'm tired from being beat up so traumatically by my life and how it has evolved. I've lost so much and I have you could say so little right now. In many ways my life is at times a living hell. Often I wake up in the morning hoping tomorrow will somehow be better then today. Being alone is at times very difficult for me. So going to prison seems like a very good ideal to me at times. While there, I could sleep, read and write. And I would be free I think of any worries or concerns. while in prison, I could attempt to rest and refuel for the next chapter in my life. Prepare for what is next for me after my time in prison. And I'm sure I'd make some new friends while incarcerated. But what is a good way to go to prison? I'm unjable to harm anyone, so that is not an avenue I could take. And I don't steal. Although I've thought about stealing a car so I could go to prison for awhile. There overall is no desirable way for me to go to prison. If my desire however increases to go to prison, I'll probably end up stealing something. But I'll steam from an establishment. Not another individual. I was in jail once for a few weeks. And I understand that prison is better in many different ways instead of jail. For now I'll continue with my life as it is right now. I'll continue to be with those who are very good for my soul. They are people who understand me in some way and who do not judge me. Such people include real brothers and soul mates. People who definitely are the reason I still exist today. Ill truly miss them when I go to prison. So I hope they write me when I am there.


Domestic Violence Charlotte NC ?

I just read that Greg Hardy of the Carolina Panthers was arrested for suspicion of Domestic Violence in Charlotte, and you can be sure a restraining order will follow his release.

Carolina Panthers defensive end Greg Hardy was arrested on suspicion of domestic violence involving his girlfriend, according to Charlotte-Mecklenburg police.

The charge is a misdemeanor, police said.

Hardy was charged with assault on a female and communicating threats, according to police.

Hardy is expected to stay in jail until his first court appearance, which is set for 9 a.m. Wednesday.

The police report states the victim is 24 years old and they have been in an active relationship since September 2013.

In a statement from the Panthers, team officials said, "We are very disappointed to learn of the allegations involving Greg and are concerned for all parties as we continue to investigate."

Hardy, nicknamed The Kraken, was drafted by Carolina in the sixth round of the 2010 NFL Draft and played his college ball at Ole Miss.

Hardy signed a franchise tag tender with the Carolina Panthers in March.  He will make $13.1 million next season if he doesn't sign a long-term extension before July 15.

With all the recent arrests of NFL Players and famous athletes, one has to wonder if some of this is an attempt by these "victims" to exhort money from the athletes. A Domestic Violence conviction could cost Greg Hardy plenty in future revenue from commercials and pay from the Carolina Panthers. We are talking millions of dollars here. So, his girlfriend claims he hit her, then agrees to drop charges for half a million dollars. Always remember, in the world of Domestic Violence arrests, and restraining order violations, there are always 2 sides to every story.
Greg Hardy could be an innocent victim here.


Hillsborough County Sheriffs Detective Gets Off Easy

Though this story is not related to restraining orders here in Hillsborough County Florida, it seems to be proof positive that there is a different standard applied to the Hillsborough County Police, and regular citizens.

Some of us have been charged with domestic violence, and violations of restraining orders, and we go to jail, and have our lives ruined by the public arrest records. Yet, this Hillsborough County Police Officer can get away with pulling a gun on a citizen, and never goes to jail, or has his arrest record made public! 

Hillsborough County Sheriffs Detective, in a Fit of Road Rage, Not Booked into Jail, Faces Little Punishment

"I am Going To Fucking Kill You!”
April 26, 2014 
When Evan Rees was rear-ended in his car, he naturally looked backwards to see what had just smashed the glass out of his rear window. What he saw next was a man jumping from a pick-up truck who started rushing at his car.
Rees, who had family in his car, got out to greet the man. At this point, a shouting match began, the man then grabbed him and the two men went to the ground.
The man that began the assault happened to be a 55 year old, Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office homicide detective, Thomas Pettis.
Jeff Krumm and family happened to be driving to Disney World that same day, and drove by this scene right before the men went to the ground so he stopped to help.
As he approached, Krumm said in a statement to police, one of the men — later identified as Pettis — grabbed Rees by the collar. The pair locked up and went to the ground. Krumm and another bystander managed to yank them apart.
Krumm said he was standing next to Pettis when the deputy pulled a handgun from an ankle holster.
In his statement to investigators, Krumm said he heard Pettis tell Rees, “I’ll shoot your ass” or “something to that effect,” according to Sheriff’s Office records. Krumm’s girlfriend, Alissa Mitchell, told investigators that she heard Pettis say, “I’m going to kill you!”
Krumm, thinking of his children waiting in the car, began to carefully back away from Pettis. He was surprised when Pettis flashed his badge. “He never acted like a police officer, in my view of what a police officer should have done,” Krumm said in an interview with the Times.
No charges were filed against Rees and Pettis was criminally charged and resigned.
However, Pettis’ brandishing of a handgun could meet the statutory definition of aggravated assault with a firearm, a felony punishable by a prison sentence of at least three years and up to five. Yet he was only prosecuted for misdemeanor battery, a charge that qualifies him for pre-trial intervention programs and the avoidance of criminal penalties.
Also Pettis was the only subject in this specific felony investigation, and was never booked into jail, his mugshot was never taken, and he did not have to face the embarrassment that ‘commoners’ must undergo for a simple DUI of having their face published on the internet.
Unfortunately the justice system is setup in a manner to allow for special treatment of those who work inside of it. Until the justice system is held accountable for their actions, we can expect to see these same scenarios playing out across the county.
It is the duty of free human beings to expose these abuses of power.



Email Violation Of Restraining Order ?

This poor guy had a restraining order in place against him. He says Google sent an email invite out in his name.
n what one expert on Internet privacy calls "a worst-case scenario," a Massachusetts man was jailed for sending his ex-girlfriend (who had a restraining order against him) an email invitation to joinGoogle+.
But Thomas Gagnon contends he didn't send it; Google did, without his knowledge or consent.
When his ex-girlfriend received the invitation, according to the Salem News, she went to the police, complaining Gagnon had violated the restraining order by sending her the email. Police agreed and arrested him, the News reported. He was jailed then released on $500 bail.
A hearing in the case has been set for Feb. 6. Gagnon's attorney, Neil Hourihan, told the News his client has no idea how the invitation got sent, since Gagnon insists he didn't send it.
Efforts by ABC News to contact Hourihan and Gagnon were not successful.
Attorney Bradley Shear of Bethesda, Md., an internationally recognized expert on Internet privacy, told ABC News it's entirely possible Gagnon is telling the truth -- that he did not intentionally or knowingly send the invitation. "If he didn't send it -- if Google sent it without his permission and he was jailed for it -- Google could be facing major liability," Shear said.
Google did not respond to a request for comment by ABC News.
Google+ allows users to aggregate their email contacts into various groups -- school classmates, say, or professional associates or old flames. Moving a contact from one category to another, Shear explained, can trigger Google to send, automatically, an email to the contact inviting them to join Google+.

Shear pointed out a Google product forum from 2011 and 2012 titled "Prevent automatic email invitations to Google+?" that contains a number of angry complaints by Google+ users about the automatic invitation feature.
One customer wrote: "As soon as I add an email to a circle, Google seems to send an email automatically asking that person to join Google Plus. Is there any way of turning this off? I don't want Google to send any email on my behalf without my permission. At least I would expect some sort of warning."

In response these complaints, a Google Community Manager calling herself "Natalie" responded: "Thanks for your feedback. Right now the emails that go out alert people of your activity on Google+, and more importantly the sharing of content with them. We send them an email when they aren't yet on Google+ so they know that you are out there in the world [of] G+. They should only incur this email once."
But once was all it took to land Gagnon in jail.
Another Google+ user on the same forum demands to know: "Why was I not warned this was going to occur[?] Why on earth do you presume to know who I want to invite?"
Shear noted: "Google is going through every one of your contacts and sending them an invitation, whether it's your doctor, your lawyer, your mistress, or your ex-fiancee who's got a restraining order against you."
He called this, "a perfect example of what happens when a company oversteps its bounds."


Former Tampa Bay Buccaneer Chartric Darby Arrested

 Former Tampa Bay Buccaneers nose tackle Chartric Darby has been arrested and charged with domestic battery.
The Pasco County Sheriff's office says an officer responded to a call about an argument at Darby's home in Land O'Lakes. Darby's wife told police they started arguing when she wanted to leave to take care of some things and Darby pushed her in the chest.
Darby told police he had been arguing but it was not physical. The officer did not see any marks or redness on Darby's wife, but he was arrested based on her statement.
They have been married 11 years and have three children together.
Darby was the starting nose tackle for Tampa Bay's Super Bowl win in 2002. He also played for Seattle and Detroit.
It is important to note that he has not been found guilty of anything. They have 3 kids together, and hopefully they will work things out for themselves, w/o the Pasco County Florida Criminal Justice systems help.


Restraining Order Petition

My boyfriend and I were both served "stay away" orders by his ex (she files restraining orders on anyone and everyone), we were served by publication meaning his ex put an ad in a newspaper where we don't even live and that was identified as proper service. Her claims are outrageous and blatant lies, I work with kids (I teach, volunteer) and now this order is forever on my record even though we are in the process of trying to vacate the order. Order of protections are against all our civil rights, we were not even present when the judge granted a plenary order which is against what the law entails. I launched a petition on in efforts to raise awareness to how much this law is being abused, and how it is unjustly served. I'm looking for people to join in and help spread the word and I know your blog has been super helpful to me with all the information and stories of other victims shared. Is there anyway you could post it to your blog? I'd appreciate any help you could give, thank you!


Falsely Accused In Marion County Florida

Back in Nov.2010 my husband and his ex broke up. He filed a temporary restraining order on her. His daughter was given to him. 2 Weeks later he went to court. Because of lack of evidence he was denied the final restraining order. On that same day in Nov.2010 after he was denied, his ex went and filed a temp. restraining order on him. They removed his daughter and gave her back to the ex. 3 days later she called the police and falsely stated that he tried to place a hit on their daughter for $ 60.00. The police questioned him and no evidence was found for it to be true. They went to court 2 weeks later and while under oath he asked her and her mother if his ex had ever been baker acted or ever been diagnosed with mental health disorders. They both lied under oath and said no. The judge decided to award the final restraining order because my husband didn't have evidence of anything he was trying to prove. She had friends and family go under oath and state he had been abusive to their child. Over the next year, she proceded to contact him through different social networks, and then tried to violate him. He did not communicate with her. Then in December of 2012 She contacted me his wife. We began talking. She requested that the judge modify the restraining order to allow communication. It was permited and they began communicating. We lived in TN by this time. She was in FL. She asked him to come back to FL and she would request the judge to vacate the restraining order so that he can start seeing his daughter. We moved back in Feb.2013. She filed a motion to vacate in Feb. 2013.The judge did not respond to the Motion. I lived with her for 2 weeks until my apartment was ready, and then I moved into my apartment with my husband.  The judge still did not respond to the Motion by May 2013. Then in May 2013 he filed a petition for visitation. In May 2013 she decided she didn't want him to see her so she claimed she was moving to Miami with their daughter. I went into her apartment office and requested information on whether she was still residing there. The apartment manager said she had not seen her in over 3 weeks, and would have to check in on the situation. My husband decided to go and file a contempt and return of child and a appointment for a guardian ad litem to be assigned to the case for his daughter. His ex had the apartment manager lie in a written statement and is now trying to violate him. If this judge had vacated this restraining order this would not even be and issue. But in the mean time, my husband has collected evidence that his ex has been Baker Acted on multiple occasions from childhood until adulthood, She has multiple domestic violence charges from childhood on her mother and father, brother and pregnant cousin, she has been arrested a few short months prior to her 18th birthday for breaking into a house and stealing alcohol and drug paraphenilia and expensive items from a neighbor. She and her mother an grandmother all lied under oath when asked if she had mental problems or ever been baker acted originally. My husband has provided all the proof to the judge along with filing a motion to vacate the injunction and also has filed a motion to set final hearing. He has also filed an amended petition to obtain sole custody of his daughter. And have her removed from her mothers care and place back into his care. He has subpoenaed people to witness that she has been neglectful and abusive to their child from infancy to recently. She has left her in her mothers care and her mother tried to commit suicide in front of her. At her own confession to my wife DCF was brought in and she was told she could not be left in the care of her grandmother. He has proof of that as well. She has a legal aid lawyer and who is from Marion County, who states in her response that she lives in Gainesville and has not willing fully moved the child to any other place. That she never said she was taking the child to Miami. I, myself, my step-daughter and her husband all heard her say it and she text messaged me that she had moved 3 weeks prior an would not disclose to where she would be living. She responded with mail anything to my mothers. Falsely Accused


Hillsborough County Florida Restraining Order Questions

Here is an email we received from a reader of this Blog, full of questions about what to do about the Hillsborough County Florida Restraining Order, his wife was able to get in Court in Tampa  against him recently.

Hello to the injustice system in Tampa! I'm from Hillsborough County, Florida, where my life is
currently being ruined. Back in October of 2012 I decided to have a
night out with my wife in Tampa. I stayed the night out, not returning until
9 am the following morning(my wrong doing and I accept that). As I
pulled into the driveway, my wife met me in rage, stating that she was
done and for me to get my belongings out which she had already packed.
I entered the house, walked into the kitchen and popped 2 tylenols for
my headache, the she shouts dramatically to my stepmom over the phone
" dont take all those pills, he's trying to kill his self". I walk off
into our bedroom, she follows behind me and closes the door. She began
to punch me, then shoves me into the wall by my throat screaming she
hates me and wish I would die. I then yelled if this makes you feel
better then go ahead. She began punching me again. My co-worker then
calls me wondering if I was coming in to work, my wife tells her I'm
too ashamed to come to the phone nor work because she had just beat me
up. Ok, further along I went on to work, co-worker witnessed the
bruising and scratches on my face. My wife decides she doesnt want to
split up. We went along for 2 days with no speaking, yet still under
the same roof. On the 3rd day I was awakened at 3am, she enters the
room screaming get up and switch on the lights. I didnt  move. She
then snatches the covers off the bed. I sat up and she began punching
me,  and biting my in the crown of my head as she was on my back.
Enough was enough, I slung her off of my back and held her arm behind
her back to diffuse the situation. She calmed down, I then let her up,
I tried to walk away but she began to punch again. I picked up an
statue, not in fear of her, but in fear that she was trying to provoke
me to have me arrested. I figured she would stay away from me, Never
threatened her. I sat the statue down, she began to follow again, i
grabbed a knife from the kitchen, again never threatening her. I held
the knife down to my side as I got dressed then I left. She called me
87 times, begging me to come home and that she was sorry, she just
want us to talk. I eventually returned home that morning. We some what
made up. 3 weeks of arguing went on about me staying out all night. I
had told her the reasoning behind it, and told her our marraige was
over. We conversated about divorce, I told he that I would give her
child support and if she could give me 30 days to find my own place I
would still help her out with the bills that following month. I had
stayed out a second time. She packed my clothing waiting at the front
door. She stated If I still felt that I was tired of working on the
marraige I needed to leave then. I left with 2 days of clothing. I
left in one of two vehicles we owned. 2 days later the  Hillsborough County, Florida, cops pull up to
my job and demanded me to hand her over the car keys. She called me on
my job through out the week begging me to come home. She also called
my family members begging them to talk to me. A week went by, I had a Tampa
cop escort me to get the rest of my belongings and the officer was
informed by my mom inlaw that my wife had taken out a  Hillsborough County Florida Restraining Order, So I was
unable to get my belongings. She continued to harrass me at work,
begging me to cone home and that she didnt show up for court so I
wouldnt have to worry about the Hillsborough County  Restraining Order. I told her I wasnt coming back,
she then stated she will have to do what she has to,  I'll be served.
No later than 4 hours later the Tampa Police were pulling up. I was
served with a ex parte, domestic violence restraining order. Requesting no contact
with wife or daughter, 400.00 in child support and 1250.00 in spousal
support. A total of 1650.00, which I have 3 other children outside her
that I support. With my income That only left me with 100.00 to
survive off of. My wife still continued to call my job and family
members begging me to come home. I called the Tampa Police and reported the
harassing calls. We finally went to Hillsborough County Florida Court in December in downtown Tampa. I was sure I
would be okay with representing my self in Hillsborough County Florida Criminal Court. I had proof wifey was not in
fear of me(tampa police report). I had statements from my co-worker, my
supervisor. I had statments from my mom whom had proof of all the
texts she recieved from my wife begging. The judge in Tampa didnt hear any of
it, didnt ask proof of anything. Now I'm stuck in restraining order hell for 12 months. What do
I do.